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2010-01-12T15:11:00.000-08:00

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Typical Friday Night

2010-01-09T00:16:00.000-08:00

Just a typical Friday at Casa de Jenny. Me, lace panties, letting my fingers do the walking. This is actually a hard shot to get because you have to stretch out and hold very still. Not something you usually do while your hand is resting on your clit. But I kept tryin' until I got what I wanted... err the shot, yeah I mean the shot.

Then I posted it for #TwitterAfterDark cuz im good like that

"It'll be just like starting over"

2010-01-01T14:40:00.000-08:00

I don't much believe in New Years resolutions but I do believe in new beginnings. I don't think you have to wait for the new year to make changes in your life.

I started to make changes in my life a few months ago, as a result my availability as an escort has been severely limited. I've been working in my chosen field the one I went to college for, the one I abandoned years back and needed a much needed break from. I just dont have time to rock worlds they way I used to, I have deadlines, meetings and I'm accountable to people other than myself. I didn't know how much I missed my old life until i started to get back to it.

I also began to take my health more seriously. Listening to and taking my doctors advice on changing my diet to help manage my life long struggle with a seizure disorder. I've gone no carb, which is not easy to do but man oh man does it work. I feel better, I look better and I haven't had a seizure since I've eliminated carbohydrates from my diet.

My personal life has also evolved, it's exciting and as is my custom challenging. I never do things the easy way. My relationship is long distance which can be heartbreaking at times. I'm also a fiercely independent person and with all the changes I'm making I might need to ease into being accountable full time to another person. Maybe the long distance thing is not so bad after all. It sure does make you really think about what you want out of/from another person and be direct and communicative. As opposed to just falling into something with someone and letting it take a course.

So back to resolutions, they really are just ways to make changes for the better. You don't need a time of year, a deadline or a reason to do that. You don't need to make a declaration or a pronouncement you just need to take baby steps and set obtainable goals for yourself and remember not to punish yourself too much when you fail because failing is a part of learning and growing.

I should know, I fail all the time but I grow and change in the process. It's a worthwhile endeavour you really should try it some time.

"Can you tell which thing is not like the others"

2009-12-22T00:51:00.000-08:00

When I first wrote a blog entry warning people not to believe everything on they saw on the Internets and that fake hookers walked among us, I didn't mean to start a firestorm. But that's just what happened. Who knew that so many legit, well reviewed, long time activists and respected members of the escort community also thought that the emperor wore no clothes, I know i didn't.

Soon after my article went up I was contacted and interviewed by Monica Shores for a story she was writing for Carnal Nation about sex workers who write about their lives and work and the accountability of bloggers. What happened after that, has taken on a life of its own.

I never mentioned who I thought the most egregious of the impostors was (there are a few) leaving the reader to think about reality versus fantasy, fact verses fiction. The whole point of the blog post was to encourage people to question and think for themselves. Giving away who the usurper was, would be counterproductive to my goal of trying to get people to use their noggins and THINK!

but to my surprise.. just like a terrorist bomber, she claimed responsibility.

My blog, twitter and brochure site were linked to her site, along with all kinds of nutty convoluted, backasswords babble, coupled with her responding to the quotes of mine that were published in the Carnal Nation story. Oh goody... web hits! Never one to look a gift horse in the mouth I welcomed my new twitter followers and crossed my fingers that the click-overs would bookmark me and come back and read again another day. Though I was pretty disappointed in the numbers. Having heard "Princess Cariboo" brag for so long about how many hits she was getting to her blog and how popular she was, I really had hoped for more traffic then I got. It was rather paltry compared to say the people linking my story about the bust in Houston (thanks fellas!)

I did however get a flurry of emails from people sharing their personal experiences of interactions with "Dr Charlotte Bach" and how they thought she was a fraud, man, cop, reporter, failed screen writer. It was pretty entertaining as these people never would have found me had Zelig not linked me and created an online scene. As I said before, I never said who I believe to be the biggest faker in the land, just that there was one.

Some have even tried to devise schemes like Mistress Matisse, she suggests that miss-fake-alot call in to Dan Savage - to what, umm prove shes got a female voice I suppose. Well hot damn! I wanna call into Dan Savage too, I've always been a huge fan of him and his work and If he hears my voice he will have to show the world that I am really Cinderella. We all know that Cinderella was female. Besides it's not like there any record of my previous work as a sexy voice over artist or podcaster to compare my voice or anyone who will recognise me as someone other than who I say I am. What a wonderful Idea. Where's his number!

Then I started getting the links... ahhh the links, truly golden. This story had legs and it was taking a walk. Let me share them with you now.

Kat Stories: This faux ho's life as a stripper doesn't ring true to real live working strippers.

There's a whole stripper forum discussion about her fake-a-bility

Seattle writer/professional dominatrix Mistress Matisse has her own take on why someone would pretend to be a sex worker... "for the attention."

Tasty Trixie: who brings up the most compelling argument pointing out Fakey McFakerson's position as a blatant unrepentant content thief. Acting much like a trick who thinks he's entitled to a freebie.

Male bloggers have even written about it calling this "David Hampton" wannabe "the worst kept secret" and writes about how on private message boards she was whispered about and laughed at.

Amber Rhea re-posted a quote from the Carnal Nation story to her tumbler

The first person to publicly question her and the most damaging accusation, bringing up her self proclaimed inappropriate behavior with minors

there are tweets too
Amberlily, Kat Stories Adora Cash Zoeynym Melissa Gira Vivian DaSilva Vivian Again Furrygirl Bubbles

***My favorite tweets (added 12/23) are from BluEyedCass, model and webcam girl *** ( it's her pictures fake-o-holic was stealing and passing off as her own)

It just keeps going and i'd be surprised if this was the end of it. People have been discussing this Pierre Plantard in their private circles for a while and its just bubbling to the surface now. Is this the only fake hooker out there running around the innertubes screaming "look at me, look at me"? Naw, but she is the one that got the furthest in the charade in a long time.

Writing the truth of sex work is hard. It's not all fun and games until someone loses an eye. It's a roller coaster of emotions, it's complex and challenging. It's not a flat one trick pony of nymphomaniac fantasies... no matter what some wanna be Michael Sabo would lead you to believe.

Meet and Greets- the new place to get arrested!

2009-12-20T10:42:00.000-08:00

There was a meet and greet busted in Houston recently. (Yeah Houston was busted again). Meet and greets are like cocktail parties where potential clients and working escorts can get together and meet and mingle. There are all different kinds of parties Many are very tame like your typical office cocktail party all the way to a full on orgy, though those are pretty rare these days and usually very hard to get an invite too.

The typical meet and greet is much like any other business networking get together. People of like minds meet at a public restaurant, bar, banquet hall and have a few cocktails and exchange contact info for get togethers on later dates. I understand why these are popular with the men. They get to see the girls in person, no need to interpret the photos on her site. Often girls who blur their face show up. The girls are there to gain new business. They will flirt with you and try to charm you into committing to book a session with them. So yeah they guys love them, especially the guys who never or rarely book with girls. Why book when you can go to a meet and greet play a little grab ass have the girl cater to you , flirt with you and charm you. You get all you need by going to the party. Meet and Greets are always full of lookie loos.

These parties can often have a theme, I for instance host a meet and greet with a toys4tots theme most holiday years. I didn't this year and I'm glad I didn't after hearing about what happened in Houston last week.

A Houston toys4tots meet and greet was busted and raided by the cops. A local Houston message and review board was infiltrated by law enforcement for 4 months prior and they busted the party. Peoples faces were splashed all over the news, girls and guys were handcuffed and put in paddy wagons (which are not fun like pussy wagons) and hauled away for attending a cocktail party. Now its not illegal to go to a party, its not illegal to say i like hookers and go to a party, its not illegal to say I'm an escort and go to a party. But the Houston cops had spent 4 months building a case against these people. Likely collecting salacious messages on the message board, reviews, naughty incriminating comments and the like.

My guess is there was some kinda raffle in place to raise money for toys for tots. I've seen this done on the small boards before when they are trying to raise cash for an event, person who is sick and needs helps, etc. Girls donate services, guys buy tickets, proceeds go to the cause. If you did that at a meet and greet to raise money for say Toys4tots.... will THAT would be prostitution and THAT is illegal.

I'm sure the bulk of those cases wont stick, especially of people keep their fat mouths shut and don't make deals to roll over or freak out. Its a publicity gag, it makes for a good story. How did the TV cameras get there to splash those peoples faces on the news? Why the police called them and told them to get ready for some good footage and a good story. It makes it look like the police in Houston are doing their jobs if they bust a bunch of consenting adults attending a cocktail party and bringing toys for needy kids! Way to go spending all those tax payer dollars Houston PD!

The concern is this though, its not hard to infiltrate any online community if you have a small amount of savvy and a lot of patience. I've been expecting it to happen and it finally did. If it happened in Houston, it can happen anywhere. Lookie loos have been doing it for years, of they can do it anyone can. As prostitution becomes more and more online focused that's where the police will go to make their busts and to keep their numbers up. Do you want your face on the local news because you wanted to play a little grab ass with a hooker or because you wanted to try to book one more hour appointment that week? is it worth the risk.

Not for me and i wont be going to any meet and greets for a very long time... I don't need to be on the news... nope not me.

How to never get a reference from Jenny DeMilo

2009-12-19T19:50:00.000-08:00

Part of being an escort that cares about other escorts safety is being reference friendly. What that means is an escort will ask a potential client for another lady he's visited to vouch for him. The potential client gives the new lady the contact info of the lady vouching him and then she emails her asking for the reference.

I've been reference friendly since I began as an escort, I'm always happy to help a lady and a client out by doing my part to keep everyone safe. I rarely have an issue, the ladies I've dealt with when I requested a reference have pretty much been polite, responsive and friendly. Of course I know that they are doing me a personal favor by giving me the reference and I make sure when contacting them that I show my appreciation, making sure to give them all the info they will need, including my own so they can verify my legitimacy. Making it as easily as possible for them. They are not required to do me this favor and taking that approach has worked like a charm. I pretty much never have issue getting references from other escorts.

When giving out a reference I have on a few occasions had to ask ladies for additional information but not very often. Usually its from a new girl. I just ask for more info, she gets to me then I'm able to help her out. I never give a reference if I'm not 100% sure of who shes asking about. Which brings me to today's issue. I finally had my first problem trying to help another girl out with a reference. Yeah i said in giving another girl a reference I had an issue trying to help her out.

Some escort emailed me asking for a reference, I was not at home where I could access the info she needed but I wrote her back right away from my iPhone telling her I wasn't near the info and that id get it to her as soon as I was able to get back home. When I got home I was able to verify the info and give her the reference. So I got back to her with the thumbs up on the client in less then 5 hours.

Next I hear from my client that he had used me as a reference but the girl was saying I never got back to her and was there an issue with me vouching for him? Since i had responded to the only reference i got for him, I asked him to tell her to send in the request again. I was the same girl she sent in another request and this time I cc'd the client with my vouch so he would know I got back to her. This time I was able to get her the reference within the hour.

Today a week later, I heard from her a third time asking her if it was my policy not to give references, as "a few potential clients" had given me as a reference and I hadn't gotten back to her. I wrote her back AGAIN and told her I had given her the references. I thought maybe her email wasn't working correctly because she had never responded to any of my return emails to say thanks (like most girls do) and i had cc'd the only client she asked me about and he responded so he know I vouched for him. I went to her website, filled out her contact form and told her I had sent in the refs and for her to check her hosting and spam folder.

I never heard back from her regarding the web form email, so i gave her a call to let her know there was an email issue. Not being anywhere near a work phone I had to call from a blocked number and figured if I got voice mail I would leave a message. To my surprise she answered the blocked call. it went like this....

ring ring...
Her: CAN YOU CALL FROM AN UNBLOCKED NUMBER!!
Me: I cant this is Jenny DeMilo you asked me for a reference
Her: click

Yup she hung up on me. She asked me to do her a favor, then she hung up on me. I called back and left her a not so nice voice mail telling her to stop telling clients I didn't reference them that I had and her email was fucked up.

This whole incident really got under my skin so I waited a bit figuring she would get the voice mail realize the blocked caller was another escort she wanted a reference from and I gave her another call. She yelled again upon answering the blocked call and before I could say "do you want the reference or not" she hung up on me. So i called a third time left her a voice mail telling her she had a lot of nerve and to not ask me for any favors in the future.

Then the emails began from her. I swear this bitch is crazy, she sent me several chastising emails. Really? You ask me for a favor, I do that favor and you email me and scold me? So my response was short and sweet something to the affect of don't contact me again and ask for any favors, you crazy bitch, I might have suggested she get off the pipe too.

I don't know where some people get the nerve. I know a lot of cracked out crazy whores are attracted to this business but I usually am able to steer clear of them, at least I try to. This crazy ho took the cake. I thought clients had entitlement issues, this twat was worse then any client who thought I owed them something for nothing.

umm well you dumb cunt, I don't owe you shit your emails are now banished to the cornfield... fuck you and happy holidays :)

"Fraud and falsehood only dread examination"

2009-11-23T12:35:00.000-08:00

Since hookers are the new black and by that i mean it's almost acceptable to be a sex worker these days. There are T.V. shows, movies and articles written about us all the time now. Though its still not in the mainstream, it's a lot more acceptable then it was just a few short years ago when i started working. As a result I've noticed a new trend. Though trend might be an over exaggeration. What I've observed is fake online sex workers. Yes i said fake. What that means is fairly high profile "escorts" that are not real working escorts. They are made up figments of their creators imaginations. With a little knowledge, a little research, it would be easy to make up a very salacious prolific online persona that was a sex worker and that is just what some people have done.

It angers me and makes me laugh my ass off, when I see people fall for this shtick. It angers me because these made up persona's are setting themselves up to represent the profession I work in and they are not real. I work hard to give my honest account of the sex worker subculture and my place in it. To not sugar coat, sensationalize or glamorize what I do. I am as honest about it as I can be. When you see people who are just making up stuff out of thin air, being touted as "authorities" on the subject of sex work, when you see these sock puppets being as sensationalistic as they can be to draw as much attention to themselves as humanly possible.... its upsetting.

When you watch the blind masses falling for it, its often sad and hilarious. How betrayed will these people feel when they find out that hot sexy little minx they read the blogs of, follow on twitter or Facebook feel when its revealed that the "sex worker" isn't a sex worker at all but some made up persona who doesn't exist. Someone who capitalized on a trend that took the ball and ran with it and MADE UP a person? I think they will feel quite betrayed because they cheer for her, believe in her sexual freedom, encourage her to succeed and support her. They do get invested in her and she is not real. How much backlash will there be for us REAL sex workers when these fakes are eventually outed for what they are. For most sex workers who quietly go about their business it probably wont impact them much but for the activists who work daily to decriminalize and fight for the rights of sex workers and for a girl like me who does speak to the press, does write honest accounts about her feelings of being involved in this world, there will be just that much more work to do to convince people were not all drugged addicted, pimped out skanks, who cant do anything but spread our legs for a fast buck. That is the real disservice these fakes do. When it is revealed they are fake no one will believe that the intelligent sex workers who speak out...are real.

I was interviewed for the LA Times this summer. The reporter wanted to meet me face to face. I agreed after checking her and out ascertaining she was in fact real herself. She explained to me why she needed to meet me face to face, it was simple, she originally thought i wasn't real. She wasn't ingrained into the escort world (most reporters aren't) She didn't know how to asses someone legitimacy with reviews, screening services, etc.. she needed to confirm with her own eyes and a face to face interview that I, Jenny DeMilo was in fact the same girl who tweeted, wrote blogs and was in the pictures on my website.

She did this because she was a REAL reporter a professional journalist. That's why i will acquiesce to certain media inquiries where they require a face to face. I know that professional journalists don't just believe whatever the Internet tells them to believe and neither should you.

So think people. Use your noggin. Take the Woodward approach of needing two separate and reliable sources of information to confirm a fact. Don't be so fucking gullible. Anyone can say hey are anything on the Internet. Astronauts, race car drivers, pirates, Tom Cruise and in the case of online hookers there are plenty of fake ones out there making up the most unbelievable crap and passing it off as legitimate and real.

I wont even get into the motivation behind perpetrating such a fraud because the Internet is a strange and weird world and people do all kinds of crazy shit from behind the protection of their computer screens. And no, i wont tell you who i know these frauds to be. If you use a little brain power you can figure it out in a hot New York second all by yourself.

5 common mistakes escorts make

2009-11-20T14:02:00.000-08:00

Many aspiring escorts make rookie mistakes. many long time vets in the biz make them too. There's no book you can read to tell you how to be a good escort and being a good escort is so much more then just knowing out to knock a clients socks off in bed or to be great client focused company. It's running a small business and business practices do come into play, as well as using your common sense. Ive put together some common and typical mistakes escort make and some easy solutions.

1. Putting your menu on your website

DON'T do it! it can be used as evidence against you in a court of law. It really can. if you say "yeah i will have sex with you for XX dollars" they you are setting yourself up to get busted and to spend some time in the clink. You have just made yourself the easy target. Using code words like BBBJ, Greek, etc is the same thing. Just say you provide time and companionship. If someone needs specifics they can read the "fantasy" reviews other clients have written about you or some ladies without reviews provide references that potential clients can contact. Dont forget that exchanging sex for money is illgal and having a prostitution bust on your record will follow you around forever. they best thing is to do whatever you can to minimize that risk.

2. Using unprofessional and unflattering photographs

If you post nasty spread beaver shots then try to charge a hefty fee you wont get anywhere. You will get a nasty client. If every picture of you is a photo you took of yourself with your camera phone in a hotel bathroom mirror, you are putting yourself in the "cam phone" ho market. If you want to charge a pretty penny for your time, then you need to appeal to the clients with the pretty penny. That means investing in your photos. Men are visual creatures and you should present yourself in your most flattering light and that includes professionally shot, artfully staged photos. You cant be a thousand dollar escort with 100 dollar photos.

3. Undervaluing your worth

Don't be desperate, look at your market, look at your competition. It's not easy to jump markets and often where you position yourself is where you will stay. Geography does play a major role in how structure your rates so take that into consideration and then don't undervalue yourself. What is you being an escort worth to you? 200, 500, 1500? setting your rate at 200 when your city average is 400 and your competition is in the 350 range and you may get a short term gain but there are clients who wont see a 200 girl if they are a 500 dollar guy and as i already said where you start is often where you stay.

4. Running your mouth too much

And by this i mean in your appointments. Don't talk about your competition, don't gossip with clients. They are some of the biggest clucking hens out there. They love to gossip. I'm talking about "hobbyist" who are involved in the community mostly. They love to pit girls against each other and cause lots of trouble. They also love to talk, talk, talk to other hobbyists. It makes them feel important like they know secret info. The best thing to do is a lot of smiling and nodding. Let them talk, you just smile. They bring up another escort you either say " oh i dot know her but i hear shes nice" or "yes i know XX, shes been very kind to me" even if you hate the bitch. Don't get suckered into gossip.

5. Using a canned website

Just as with professional photos you need a professional website and though canned template sites are great when you're just starting out to get your feet wet. When you're ready to step up your game and be a real professional invest in a domain name that YOU control and a professional website designer who can create you a site you can maintain and update yourself with a user friendly CMS (content management system) don't be another cheap ass ho in line. Be an individual, show your personality and style. It will pay off.

Those are just a few of the common pitfalls i see girls making over and over again and they are easy to avoid if you put in a little bit of effort. Its well worth it and your bottom line will thank you.

Jenny DeMilo's Cleavage

2009-11-08T10:37:00.001-08:00

Jenny DeMilo's Clevage, originally uploaded by Jenny Demilo.

Ive been taking some black and whites lately, mostly of my adventures around town (i post them often on twitter http://www.twitter.com/jennydemilo )I love the feel and mystery of black and white photos and moving forward i will be talking a lot more of them..of myself. I shoot most of all my own pictures and typically i use bright vibrant colors to accent my bright vibrant personality but I'm really enjoying getting a little moodier with shadow and light.

i shot this one this morning as i woke up with the light beaming in my bedroom window early in the AM. I know boys get morning wood, i however get morning cleavage.

The Porn Star Experience

2009-09-30T10:37:00.000-07:00

Apparently i can provide a porn star experience. Now i know i usually tout myself as a GFE. I get personal and intimate with my clients. I'm responsive and present. Its what i do and I'm pretty damn good at it. Oh my last trip to Albany i was booked by a new client who was giving me to himself for his birthday. I wouldn't call him a "hobbyist" just a young guy looking to treat himself to some hassle free Jenny lovin'. The appointment almost feel though when when he saw on my FAQ's that i was a former Pro Domme as being dominated wasn't what this young man had on his agenda, as i was to find out. I assured him that there was a reason i was no longer a Domme and if he would like to be the one "large and in charge" in our encounter that i was cool with that. He took the leap and booked the appointment.

He arrived at my hotel, all 6'5" of him and i was quite pleased as its slightly unusual to have such a strapping young man cross my path, especially in Albany. I was even more pleased after the small talk was over and i was naked bent over my hotel bed getting slammed fucked by my new friend and his giant cock.

His telling me he was interested in being in charge was my cue to be the submissive fuck doll i knew he wanted. I don't always get into that kinda of session but i did this time. It was a bang brothers video reenacted right there in my upstate NY hotel room. No pussy was left un-pounded, no cock was left un-sucked, no face was left un-fucked and no stone was left unturned. I was properly screwed buy a cute guy with a large throbbing hot cock and i liked it.

The best part was that this young man was such a sweet guy, cute, and oh so tall. I just adore it when a sweet, respectful, NICE guy can tun you into a well fucked tart... in no time flat.

Wet, Naked And Knocked Up

2009-09-08T11:17:00.000-07:00

Shot naked pictures of Little Blondie over the weekend (i know shes not very blonde right now). My make up artist assistant and favorite girl is gonna have a baby. I'm excited that any day new a new member of my extended family will be born!

oh and I swear shes a virgin, you can tell from this picture!

I might be a Whore but I'm not a Hole

2009-08-08T08:52:00.000-07:00

The email came in like any other, a response to an ad i had placed in a city, in another state i was visiting. However i hadn't received one like this in a while...

"need you by 9:00 pm tonight. if too much bullshit, foreget about it."

Well where do i sign up! emails like this usually just go straight into the trash because lets be honest I'm not a hole don't i don't enjoy being treated as one. That's exactly what this email does, let me break it down.

1. no salutation or greeting- devoid of using my name ( to further dehumanize me)
2. a demanding i need you by 9pm tonight inquiry (with no mention of screening info)
3. "if its to much bullshit..." (again implies screening with be an issue, in fact it implies everything will be an issue)
4. miss spelling of "forget" (to much trouble to even run a spell check)

Those are just the glaringly obvious red flags on this play. This goes deeper, there are two types of guys that send these kinds of emails and its my job to figure which camp i think this little piece of email joy fits into.

1. socially unaware - has ZERO idea of how to speak to women let alone escorts.
2. men who hate women

lets take the socially unaware guys. He sends an email with no social graces because he has none. No greeting, no reference to anything i request on my booking form, no info about himself, no reference actually reading my site, he probably didn't. He saw a picture, he grunted and sent the email (well at least he didn't call) If i thought the email was in this camp i could send him back an email asking for more info draw him out and see where could lead, it could turn into a successful appointment but id be aware meeting this guy in person, he would also have no social graces face to face.

Men who hate women. He hates women and treats them disrespectfully even in an email because they are all whores... yanno just like his mother. To him escorts are just a hole and you never have to be kind or polite to a hole. You don't read a holes website to get a feel from it to see if you are a good fit, cuz all you wanna do is fit your dick in a hole. You don't politely ask if you are available on short notice by 9pm this evening because you are in a tight schedule, you send a one line demand and add the caveat that "if" its to much bullshit "foreget" about it and you don't even take the time to run a spell check over it, i mean why? you're emailing a hole not a person.

It was pretty easy for me to see this email for what it was immediately and which group Mr Charm belonged to and i responded accordingly - i refuse to be treated like a hole and i will weed your dumb ass out in a heartbeat. I might be a whore but I'm not a hole and i still have and always will have the choice as to who i will share my time and body with. As much as that chaps the women haters hides i don't care, even us whores have the right to refuse them and we do... all the time.

Oh prince charming take me away....

2009-08-02T09:16:00.000-07:00

No i am not available after the bars close drunk caller. Yes, i can tell you're drunk even though you are not slurring, how you ask? well its 2:19 am when you called to "check my availability" Yes i was asleep and yes you did wake me up. I'm sorry I'm wasn't the tweaker ho up all night, ready on a moments notice, dying to invite you over to her incall that you were looking for. Had you read my site (ha! yeah right) you would have seen that i generally need 24 hours advance notice for incall anyways and outcall if you call at 2:19am means i cant be ready until 3:19 (well hell i was asleep an hour is good time) then travel time to get to you 4:19 (its LA there's even traffic at night) and well you're passed out by then and I'm left pounding on your front door in a fit of rage while the sun comes up.

See how that goes mister middle of the night drunk caller? Just jerk off when you're drunk and calling escorts in the middle of the night, in fact how about this, DON'T call them and annoy them. You're not serious and you wouldn't be any good in the sack anyways. I mean your DRUNK, its late and lets face it you probably have issues in that arena anyways.

I'm just far to responsible to be available to drunk guys right before dawn and ruin my whole next day due to lack of sleep and having to deal with horny disrespectful drunks. I know, i know i have to remember to tun off my bat phone when i go to bed.... next time!

At The Mirage

2009-07-12T09:06:00.001-07:00

Jenn in Vegas, originally uploaded by Jenny Demilo.

I went to Vegas earlier this month and got a room in the newly renovated Mirage, for a super deal I might add. I took a couple of quick snaps with my remote as i always travel with my camera. I should have taken more because the room had this retro swagger to it. Maybe i will get the Mirage again when im next in Vegas... in September.

But, but, but .. you're a whore!

2009-06-25T07:59:00.001-07:00

So I've been reading the hooker message boards and zeroing in on this months latest trend. Men upset that the "whores" wont service them. But you're a whore you HAVE to see anyone who will pay you. You don't have choices because you're a whore. You cant refuse me for being a entitled ass hat because you're a WHORE

whore whore whore whore!

I'm quite sure i know what it is a do for a living, i mean i am the one fucking strangers in hotels for greenbacks but thanks for the reminder. The real question is, what is up with these guys? Have they been refused by the "whores" a lot? doubtful, my guess is they are the guys who when they were young men maybe in high-school maybe when thy were a little older who's greatest fear with women was/is... rejection.

They feel powerless, they are not comfortable engaging women in a real way and have eventually found themselves in the pay for play game. Because they feel that when they pay they have the power and the fact that a WHORE could reject them is one of their greatest fears. To get rejected by a women who gets paid to be there is so scary to them that they go on a rampage on message boards to try to get though to these whores and their supporters they they whores shouldn't have a choice so that they will never be in the position to be rejected by one. So they act out anonymously on message boards because if they used their real"handles" they whores might not see them so they have to do it from behind a mask and berate the whores, incite them men who generally like the whores and stomp their little feet and gnash their little teeth.

if it didn't get so tiresome or wasn't so pathetic, I'd find it funny.

it can be hurtful no matter how thick your skin is to be denigrated by a segment of a community who really should be more supportive since they engage in the same activities be it on the other side of the fence. Sex workers are often terribly put down by society we are not accepted and its disheartening when we are not accepted by our own. it can grate on you and often does.

I'm sure I'm just being an uppity whore.

I once had a friend

2009-06-20T11:29:00.000-07:00

I once had a friend, who's a "hobbyist" we hung out, i liked him, he portrayed himself to be although at times a little immature for his advanced, age a nice guy who's intentions and heart was in the right place. I couldn't have been more wrong. It often takes a crisis to really see what someone is made of. You learn more about people about how they act when they are confronted with an emergency then you do sitting at dinner after dinner with them. Call it the stress reflex if you like.

This friend had a personal crisis and i saw a side of him i never thought i would. Mean, unethical, lying, lashing out. It made me sad, but it also made it impossible for me to continue to be active friends with him. I cant be around that kind of toxic poison. I was also a little upset with myself for being taken in but his outward facade.

In this business we often want to connect with people who understand and except what we do for a living. Its hard lying to the people around you all the time so we seek out like minded people, this is more often then not a HUGE mistake. It has been with me on several occasions. I am not immune to wanting to connect with people who share my experiences and my free spirited attitude.

In this case this "friend"has passively aggressively made attempts to make me feel bad, hurt my feelings, bait me into arguing with him on various message boards and even backhandedly threaten my business model - wtf.

I will continue to ignore him as best i can. its not always easy but i will try. Maybe he will buy himself a young pretty girlfriend soon and he wont have time to bother me anymore.

or get run over by a bus... oh a girl can dream.

Clients 1-8. Im hitting Albany 22-26th

2009-06-19T11:57:00.000-07:00

I'm going back out on the road.

I'm trying to arrange my life so i don't have to work here at my home base and by work i mean dirty, nasty, fuck and suck work. I'd like to do that just on the road and keep my time here at home in beautiful Los Angeles just me working on my photo career and then if escort work comes my way, so be it but i don't want to have to chase escort work on my home turf anymore. Those are lofty aspirations i know especially in these economic times but they are my aspirations none the less.

I'm heading out to Albany NY, that's right Spitzer country to see clients 1-8 and maybe 10-100 who knows... i could get lucky. I have never been to NY's state capital before as the last time i was planning on going i had to last minute cancel for family reasons. I'm excited about the trip but not about the air travel. Seems unless you own your own jet air travel from LA to Albany SUCKS ASS. Yep layovers, bad airlines, long travel times. So i will travel at night, try to sleep with the aid of magic sleep inducing pills and hope for the best.

A friend of mine Heather should be close to the area during a couple days of my trip June 22nd-26th so i get to hang out with her, that should be fun as shes a rad chick. I'm also hoping for another friend to come visit though i think that ones a long shot because getting to me all the way in NY when hes no where near it will take much effort. So as much as id like to play a little on this trip i will be working most of the time. Its also supposed to rain the whole time i there. Just as it gets to look like summer here in LA i go to NY where is rainy and gloomy. it figures.

I'm planning some other new and exciting summer destinations, since those aren't set in stone and will take a little funding and planning I'm not ready to announce it yet. But i will soon....

Lick My Face

2009-06-15T13:22:00.001-07:00

Lick, originally uploaded by Jenny Demilo.

I was lucky enough to photograph the wickedly beautiful and super cool Ms Justine over the weekend along with her little pet "K" we had a lot of fun running K though her paces and me documenting it all for Ms Justine's website

All i do is point and shoot when the girls are this pretty. Okay maybe i do just a little more, but not much... i swear!

I shoot myself

2009-06-10T10:03:00.001-07:00

Chicago2, originally uploaded by Jenny Demilo.

When i have down time on tour, i try to take a few snaps to keep my portfolio fresh. This was taken in a hotel in Chicago last week between bookings.

For those of you who last minute cancelled... see what you missed motherfuckers ;)

I am sure they are sour

2009-05-19T07:42:00.001-07:00

The Las Vegas Weekly loves me - I did a interview with them and it came out rather nicely. I was able to not just spotlight myself but to give a little good press to this odd subculture i found myself in for the past few years. You never know when you do something like this how its going to turn out. If your long ass interview is going to end up a tiny sound bite or if they are going to paint you in a negative light, take a small statement out of context with the intent of pounding your round hole into their square peg, so i was rather happy with this result. I consider this quite an accomplishment I'm proud of it- i came off funny, articulate and interesting. Because that's what i am- big ups to the reporter Jennifer Grafiada for making me comfortable enough to spill my guts.

What i wasn't happy with was the amount of "sour grapes" my from people who were supposedly colleagues in this world. Yeah i expected a few haters, but from people who basically... hate me, not people who are all kissy kissy nice to my face. It was a bit of a surprise to see or rather it was a bit of a surprise to hear as the back channel chatter came around to me. That's right fuckfaces i have ears in the back of my head, i know what you said.

oh well for all those lovelies who took this opportunity to slam me behind my back like the bitch ass cowards that they are ....

You can suck it!

Play with Avery

2009-05-17T11:56:00.001-07:00

Play with Avery, originally uploaded by Jenny Demilo.

Shot in DC May 09- Avery is hot, tall and surprisingly down to earth. I was lucky enough to shoot her in DC on my last trip. I plan on hanging out with her again when im in DC cuz shes so cool.

Julissa...

2009-04-19T09:13:00.001-07:00

A sex worker in Boston is dead. She was killed by a potential client who's it is believed has been robbing ladies in Boston for a while. When this young women fought back he shot her in the chest several times and left her for dead and die she did. This was in a nice hotel in the Back Bay in Boston. Boston is a city I've been to on tour and will go back to.

Some specifics: she advertised "massages" on Craigslist, she was a young and beautiful girl and by all accounts this was her secret life. Her name was Julissa Brisma n.

They have connected this murder to two other robberies (one just a couple days after he killed Julissa) though i know this man has robbed more then just two women. Hes been on the radar of ladies in the area for a while, he is young attractive blond man of about 6 feet tall. And according to a CIA profiler i saw on the news hes on a "spree" he wont stop until caught.

Over a year ago really closer to two years now, in California there was a guy who was beating, robbing, choking out countless sex workers and leaving them for dead. He finally seceded in killing a girl in orange county. I personally knew one girl who was badly injured and knew though the web two others who were attacked and beaten. It wasn't really on the news, the local industry message boards didn't seem to really care and kept removing warnings about the guy with some lame excuse about protecting their own liability. Meanwhile girls were being hurt.

The guy was finally caught.

When the Boston story broke, It was the lead in teaser for my NBC LOCAL 11pm News here in L.A. The actual story was about 15 minutes into the evening news after the first break. They didn't say the girls were sex workers they said they put "racy" ads up on Craigslist. So that's how the media here in LA was first framing the story.

I found it strange that it was on my local news but not unhappy about the word getting out. I don't know why this story is getting national headlines, i don't know if the media is more tolerant of sex workers because in the last two years we've been more public. There's a major studio movie coming out about sex workers, (The Girlfriend Experience) Showtime had their second season of Secret Diary Of A Call Girl. Not to mention there are interviews and articles popping up showing sex work in a more positive light and not always as drugged out street walkers with pimps who are wearing their childhood abuse on their sleeve. Oh and of course prop K in S.F. That brought a lot of attention to the sex workers as normal people movement.

The guy in Boston was likely targeting sex workers because he felt that they wouldn't be able to go to the police. Also he had access to women alone he could over power. It's what we all fear and why we have safety precautions, screening process and safe calls. We have to know who it is we are seeing, there are many men out there who balk and are uncomfortable giving up their personal info and many who will berate you for just asking for it, they don't understand why they need to give up their info just for the opportunity to spend time with a pretty girl but Julissa's tragic death underscores why we ask for it.

Our lives could depend on it.

Happy Zombie Jesus Day!

2009-04-12T11:05:00.000-07:00

Think about it!

The city that never sleeps...

2009-04-10T09:17:00.000-07:00

So I'm heading east again. Washington DC and then my first escort adventure to wonderful New York City. Its true that i have spent time in Manhattan, much time actually. I considered moving there once back in my advertising days but ultimately decided i couldn't leave sunny and beautiful California. Its a city with a lot of energy and i shouldn't have waited this long to make my return.

I'm excited about returning to DC its a city filled with happy people these days, everyone seems to be in a good mood and that is a very good thing for a girl like me. Making happy people happier is easier then making cranky grumps happy. I will then work my ass off (literally) to make as many DC men as happy as i can. I'm nervous about NYC, I've never worked there, there are tons of girls i that city peddling here wares and i think there's a chance i could get lost int he shuffle. It costs me money everyday to be on tour, i have hotel expenses and back at home i have specialized dog care for my special needs pooch. so i have pretty lofty goals for myself, work wise. It will be interesting to see how it all works out.

I'm also hoping to shoot a few ladies while i am there as i never travel without my camera. Look out DC nd NYC im on my way....

We All Shine On

2009-03-31T23:58:00.000-07:00

I've always lived my life as if things were a Beatles song.

Everybody does have something to hide except me and my monkey, happiness is a warm gun and I really do believe all you need is love. Thinking this way has left me at worst devastated and disappointed when sadly i learned that not everyone thought the way i did and delighted and amused when my path crossed with someone kindred spirit who did.

As i got a little older i began to live my life as if things were a John Lennon song. I'm often crippled inside, I know it ain't easy and i am always trying to find someone to gimme some truth.

It was a funny little revelation i made on my birthday this year - i wonder do other people live their lives like they are lyrics of songs. Maybe they do any maybe they don't or just maybe they do but they are to paralyzed by life to recognize it. It might also explain my strange attachment to apples...

Like the moon and the stars and the sun

Busted In Houston Texas

2009-03-17T10:28:00.001-07:00

Another big escort agency got busted. This time in Houston. The last big bust was in Arizona. this time a couple was arrested for running the "prostitution ring" and it was another long investigation, 2 years long, that's long. The female owner called herself the "Heidi Fleiss" of Huston. lets hope not Heidi got busted for having a big mouth and has since fallen into hard, hard times and looks like she will never recover. Drug addiction will do that to you. I have always had a soft spot for Heidi, our paths have crossed much over my lifetime and though i would never presume to call her a "friend" maybe a long ago before i was ever an escort frenemy would be more appropriate title. I hope some day she really does get it together and can live the rest of her life out happy and healthy.

So back to Houston. Its funny because i was just doing some research into Texas for touring, and i was on the fence about going there. With ASPD the local Texas escort website being down for months after their hacking and the fact that rates tend to be lower in Texas i wasn't sure it was for me. Now with this latest news i know I'm not going to tour Texas. This very well could shut down Houston for escorts for quite a while if it really is as big a bust as the media is making it out to be. Az is a dead state and hasn't even come close to bouncing back after the huge bust there last year.

The backlash of this will be the "screening issue" the cops in Houston has this agencies client list. They are making much hulabalu out of it, its large (1500 names large) and as will all guys that can afford 350 a pop or more to see a hooker, its reported to have some prominent Houston names on it.

It makes clients or potential clients scared to screen in fear that their name will be on a client list in the future. Lets get a few things straight, when you use an agency to see a hooker, you take on certain risks, mostly the risk is of a bait and switch or upsell situation, because most agencies are not flat fee legit gfe agencies. However there are some out there and with those your risk is that they screen you to make sure you are not law enforcement or a crazy kookoo who wants to hurt their girls. Which they should do, that's good business and its safety driven. Here's the downside though, Agencies look like a tasty yummy dessert to Law enforcement. They love to bust them. They look good to their communities for "cleaning them up" and they they make a HUGE media splash, it looks like they are doing their job and earning their paychecks. That is a major consideration that most clients don't take into consideration when they call an escort agency. Its the one they should consider the most if they are worried that their name in the local paper on a "johns list" might i don't know... ruin their marriages and lives.

In contrast that risk is not something you take on when you give your screening info to a legit reputable INDEPENDENT provider. No police agency is going to spend 2 years of tax payer money spear heading an investigation into one little independent girl for a misdemeanor prostitution bust where she will be released in most cases on a 250.00 bond or ORO in 24 hours, provided shes got no warrants or priors. I'm not saying there is no risk, there is never NO risk in this game.The trick is to minimize the risk weigh the consequences . So if the consequences of your name being on an agencies "trick list" is too much for you then keep it in your pants and screw your wife or take a calculated lesser risk and see an independent escort with a good reputation.

yanno... like me.

There's no place like home

2009-03-08T15:07:00.000-07:00

I'm home from my quick jaunt to Washington DC and still haven't gotten my body clock back to normal, this daylight savings thing isn't doing me any favors either. I missed the epileptic pooch and my little hipster love shack but I had such a great time that i am going back to visit DC again in a couple months. While there I went to a couple of great restaurants Marcel's where the squab was amazing and The Peacock Cafe in Georgetown and i got a tour of the Pentagon. Yup that's right i was lucky enough to get to walk around the Pentagon (with an escort of course) it was really a thrill to be there and see the largest office building in the world. Also well worth the fact that i know my info must be in yet another government database of some kind. I didn't get to do any real sight seeing like the White House or the Mall but i did get to meet up with some super sweet local girls one being the very strikingly beautiful Mylan for some nosh and a couple drinks.

My gentlemen callers were all really fun (especially the non birthday boy and my first timer i got to ruin... oh my, oh my) and i wonder is DC always like that? Is everyone always so cheerful and fun to be around or is it because of the new administration in town. Was it all doom and gloom over the last 8 years and now its like in the Wizard Of Oz when the house lands on the Wicked Witch Of The East and the doors open to a beautiful Technicolor other world. Even though it was amazingly cold and i seem to have brought snow with me again, like i did when i went to Boston. I still really enjoyed myself and had to stifle my canary eating grin every time my travel companions were cranky and ready to go home, I could have stayed another week without a second thought.

Oh DC i shall return soon but there is.... no place like home.

Chocolate City!

2009-02-23T10:34:00.000-08:00

I'm heading next week the the nations capitol on my first working trip there. I've been to DC once before on a quick jaunt from from NYC for a weekend to see the monuments and visit the Mall. I did visit my senator while i was there. Yeah I'm that girl.

I'm excited because DC is such an interesting city with so much happening these days. I'm also thrilled that im pre-booking my naughty adventures which should make this trip not only fun but solvent, always a winning combo for me. Because i want to come back and get to know to DC often and it being financially rewarding will make that much more possible

I will be traveling with my girlfriends Audrey and Vanessa and what could be more fun then that ... ahh nothing! hot girls, nations capitol, naked fun. yeah its going to be a good time... i can tell feel it in my bones. Okay maybe i will be feeling in in other peoples bones too :D

The Girlfriend Experience?

2009-02-13T10:09:00.000-08:00

GFE aka the girlfriend experience its much sought after. For the time contracted you try to connect with your client, be intimate, present and involved in your time together. That the job, that's what i do and i do it well. Sure i can deep throat a cock, fuck you silly and scream like a banshee but that's the easy part, finding the connection with someone in such a short space of time is a skill and one you need, to do what i do.

What i have found is that many potential clients not only expect that kind of experience within the context of the time he has purchased with you, but they now want it outside of it as well. What they want is essentially a defacto relationship of sorts. Not just a few back and forth get to know you emails which I'm always up for, i tend to be sweet but not to personal in those communication because that's how i am. I'm sweet but I'm not to personal with people i don't know well. If you want to get personal then book the time and i will be very personal then..and naked!

I had a client cancel on me recently it turned ugly and fast. Expenses were incurred on my part and the client graciously offered to reimburse me for those, then suddenly balked. It was uncomfortable and he was insulting. He sent me long winded multi paged chastising emails where he worked himself up into a massive froth of total wakadoo-ness. The last paragraph of the last email he sent me he actually had the stones to chide me on how i wasn't sympathetic to his personal financial situation. A situation that was responsible for his need to cancel our confirmed plans or rather it was his relatives personal financial situation, that's what i didn't care enough about. Yep that's right, i didn't care enough or at all about his siblings finances.

Now had this person been a friend of mine, someone i had a personal relationship with or even regular client who i had spent intimate time with i would have had sympathy for him and or his family. But i didn't because he wasn't a friend of mine he was a potential client, someone i had exchanged a few plesentries with off and on for a while until he finally decided to book time with me. He wasn't a friend, we had never broken bread, gone out for a drink or a movie, until a few days before he canceled leaving me with a hotel bill i prepaid i didn't even know his real name, i only know him by a message board handle and he was littlerly enraged that i didn't care about his siblings financial plight. yep that's a whole lotta crazy right there.

I know times are tough for a lot of people, I'm not immune to that, people i care about have been out of work for months, family members have lost retirements, every one i know is tightening their belt these days myself included. I watch the news, i know about the rising unemployment rates, I'm well aware of my Local economy taking a nose dive and how the housing bubble in my area busted over a year ago. I'm not unsympathetic to the general plight.. but... I'm NOT your fucking girlfriend. I offer a service, the girlfriend EXPERIENCE and of you want me to act like your girlfriend you need to PAY me to do it, i don't give that up for free unless i really am your girlfriend and for a potential client and long time hobbyist to throw a temper tantrum because I'm not giving him "free service" well ... whacka-doo is the word i have to repeat.

Within the context of my paid time with you if you want to lament to me about your siblings hardships i will be the most sympathetic person i know how to be, i will empathize with their difficult times if that's how you want to spend your time but until that time, i don't owe you shit.

I'm not your bitch...bitch

A wild beast may wound your body...

2009-02-11T01:37:00.000-08:00

Mean girls are abundant in the world of escorts. Frenimies abound. Its hard to find real friends who are hookers, sometimes when you think you have a real friend you don't. In retrospect you realize that's the relationship was draining and unsatisfying for a number of reasons, the least of which you were just desperate for understanding from someone who shares your unique experiences and ultimately got sucked in by some emotional vampire, with issue after issue. In the end you realize you spent the bulk of your "friendship" dealing with, listening to and fixing someone else's problems. I have seen this over and over with other women and i have lived it myself.

Lets face it lots of fucked up women are escorts, this business attracts crazy women. The lifestyle is fast paced and can be excessive, its a very hard business to say grounded in. No real hours, you don't live on a schedule, have no regular income, its feast or famine. Many girls don't have a real home and live out of suitcases, never having a place to call their own, a place to be responsible for. The transient effect makes vulnerable to crazy people down right looped .

I am like a magnet to those types of female friendships. I have to really work hard not to get sucked into situations like that. I fail often. In the real word when a friendship fails its easier to walk away, that's not to say its not painful but walking away is what most people do. You go your way, i go mine. When friendship with a crazy escort fails, you better watch your back. Because someone that has lost touch with the real world such a way as to not even be capable of maintaining the responsibility of a modest place to live, surly isn't capable of walking away from a broken friendship and moving on. No matter how much you hope they will.

They come back over and over like a bad penny... there are long standing feuds. bad feelings that last years, I've seen it destroy people. Eat at them up, hurt them.. good people too.

You might ask why i wrote this, yes i have my own personal saga with a crazy escort friendship that failed and try as i might to find a middle ground a way to coexist without there being constant conflict i find myself at a loss. I'm out of ideas. the animosity on her side is rampant and vile and mean. Ive said nothing about my struggle with this for 7 long months except to seek advise from the 2 people who i trust most. Both have tried to give me sound advice about letting it go moving on. Though how i accomplish that when I'm constantly having to ward off bad juju is beyond me right now.

I found myself tonight thinking back to my teen-aged Buddhist household and trying to employ the techniques i learned then.. like chanting for her happiness. I know it sounds silly but if someone is happy then they are not exactly likely to put in the energy to try to fuck with your life. So i did, i don't know if it did anything except to make me feel a little more in control of the situation. Then i sat down to write this with a clear head .

I guess i just need to be the ball more often.

Bite it

2009-02-01T17:33:00.001-08:00

Bite it, originally uploaded by Jenny Demilo.

While in Boston in a snow storm, in a downtown hotel, wearing my lingerie, i decided to play around with my new wireless remote. This is the result.

doesn't it just make you wanna take a bite? of the apple that is!

Know your rights!

2009-01-24T10:50:00.000-08:00

I came across this video today and its a good explanation of the 5th amendment and why you should NEVER talk to the police. I mean NEVER. Just shut the fuck up, politely refuse to answer ANY questions and ask for an attorney.

It's long but worth watching. There is very insightful information in this, pay attention!

Hit The Road Jack...

2009-01-22T19:48:00.001-08:00

I decided to start touring earlier then i previously planned. I'm going out on the road in a few days with the ever perky Audrey Trouble. I got ancy and twitchy to get started, what can i say. So first stop is Boston, MA. I've never been and though it will be extra cold ( i mean extra, extra cold for a Cali girl like me) i want to try to get out and do at least one Boston-ish kinda thing. I don't want my first trip to be just seeing the 4 walls of my hotel... and a lot of cock. However I have no idea what to do. Should i see something historical, or go to a famous Boston restaurant, reenact the Boston tea party in my panties and fuck me pumps? I'm sure i will figure it out eventually. I know while I'm there I'm gonna take some snappies (that's photos to the unaware) of Heather Jana, local Bostonian hottie for hire, so that will be fun.

After Boston ... Vegas. Always a fun place for me. I'll be there the week after Superbowl plus it's the week of the concrete and tile conventions. That means manly men will abound and those types really do appreciate a dirty girl like myself.

After Vegas I'm home for a little bit and i get to spend some quality time with the pooch... oh and the main man before i head out once again to places unknown and destinations exotic.. okay maybe just destinations Midwestern.

I just hope i dont see a man on the wing of the plane, cuz that would be a nightmare at 20,000 feet.

Accountability breeds responsibility.

2009-01-11T11:25:00.000-08:00

Screening is necessary in this business, its necessary for several reasons. Prostitution is illegal, yeah even in Vegas so you don't wanna go to jail and bad people find it easy to do bad things to prostitutes. So you need to screen so you know WHO It is you are going to be spending time with. You must become a Jr Private Eye. Its not just to keep you free, its to keep you alive and safe. But screening is just a risk management tool it cant protect you from everything.

I've been hearing stories about girls getting ripped off lately. Its always a possibility, it happens to the best of us. Some douchebag runs out on his bill - to use a term i heard the other day he's "stealing pussy" but usually that's a dine and dash situation. You get a little sloppy and wham then next thing you know he's running out the door and your still naked and cant chase him down the hallway of the 4 star hotel you rented under your real name. Calling security also not usually an option. You suck it up, curse yourself out for a bit then try to make the adjustment so that situation doesn't happen again. Its never a happy day and you feel really bad besides now being broke. I know this from experience.

The disturbing thing i see happening more is TRUSTED clients ripping off escorts they've seen before, or creating elaborate rouses to scam an escort out of more time intimate and other wise. Clients with references going back years, ripping off providers they've seen several times and therefore have built a certain amount of trust up with and worse they are getting aggressive in the process.

Is it a sign of tough times? These same guys who when things are going well in their world and they are feeling flush would never cross the line of stealing and scamming someone, now that they are feeling the squeeze are ripping off and taking advantage of ladies they know because that's the easy mark for them. Is That how they get the powerful feeling back that having lots of expendable income gives them? Its pathetic and sad and its happening more and more.

Screening cant save you from that kind of loser. So in the tough times ahead we need to be extra alert and aware, even with clients we've seen before. The only thing screening can do in that case is give you enough information that if they cross the line into stealing, scamming or abusing an escort that there will be some recourse and you have the option of holding someone accountable. You cant do that if you don't know WHO you are seeing, which is yet another reason why screening is so important.

Entitlement begins its consuming grind

2008-12-28T11:30:00.001-08:00

There are rules for ad postings on message boards about hookers. They all vary to some degree or another but there are rules. Escorts must adhere to such rules or risk banishment and lose the ad venue or be subject to ridicule and public scolding by those tho know the rules inside and out. The rules are often hard to find.

I've been noticing a trend on several boards, Hobbyists (johns, tricks, clients whatever you want to call them) posting derogatory insulting comments on a escorts ad thread. The slant seems to be "you charge too much, don't you know there's a recession!!" with a good portion of "you fucking whore" implied though some don't imply the last part but come right out in say it. Classy.

A recession? really? wow i was too busy doing my nails and playing with my perpetually wet snatch to watch the news or pay attention to the world around me to notice, you don't say.

The escorts I KNOW all knew about the recession long before the disgruntled nasty comment backlash started or before the word was uttered on the evening news. Escorts are more tuned in to the ebb and flow of cash flow then any other business people i know. Seriously, they really are.

What amazes me is how these disgruntled message board cry babies think that by brow beating some escort trying to make a living by hanging her shingle out (the ad thread) will work. As if suddenly the lady is going to say oh yeas Mr. anonymous troll let me give you my services for free because i know how hard it must be for YOU out in the real world. As if WE don't live in the real world too. Its the sense entitlement i don't get. Not the disappointment that they cant afford to pay for prime pussy, i understand the disappointment. I get disappointed too when i cant afford something i want. I either forgo it or save up for it. I don't go into Tiffany's and bitch the sales people out because theres a recession on and they should lower their fucking prices because I NEED to wear that bracelet. When in actuality i don't. I can easily not wear it, just as these message board shit talkers can easily not fuck a whore.

They feel entitled to publicly bitch and moan, they try to get other shit talkers to join the fray, they try to get the lady to join the fray. If she does try to defend herself they further attempt to say "see that nasty whore doesn't deserve to get paid, cuz shes got a the nerve to defend her business" oh and they bash any male who thinks being a loud mouthed rude prick on a message board makes all hobbyists look bad.

I see this going a couple ways, its going to get worse as more men who used to be able to easily afford to screw escorts realize that they can less and less if at all, so the disgruntled will become more vocal. I also see the ladies not sitting back and taking it, its harder out there for everyone and yes that includes escorts. When you get limited access to advertise and that advertisement is sullied by some angry little man and his personal financial issues, it very likely will lead to more ladies not taking the high road and waiting for next weeks ad to go smooth but to taking on these shit talkers head to head.

So its going to get a lot nastier...mark...my...words...

A Xmas Message ...Boobies!

2008-12-25T10:46:00.000-08:00

The Midwest Teen Sex Show rock.. Consider this my holiday gift to you.

Merry Middle Moose Everyone!!!

H/T- Audrey Trouble

While visions of sugar-plums danced in their heads.

2008-12-24T15:49:00.000-08:00

Since i cant read you ALL a bedtime story, i thought id share the one that was read to me on every Christmas Eve

Jenny News Round-Up

2008-12-18T10:09:00.000-08:00

I can finally relax and breathe and start to hunker down and concentrate on making cash by men happy, one at a time. Just in time for the holidays and the winter slow down and I'm roaring to go.. isn't that always the way?

My Annul Toys4Tots meet and greet and holiday toy drive is behind me - (thanks everyone for coming and donating) This year my co-host was the lovely Audrey Trouble and it was held at a hip pirate bar in Downtown LA. I will be posting a picture like i did last year of all the toys we collected and the firemen i turn them into (provided they pose again this year) it was a success in that we collected many toys for needy kids and that's always the point of it all now isn't it.

My first photo layout for $pread Magazine is completed and turned in on time - I will have a photo in every issue for a while well until they get sick of me. I'm super thrilled with the results of this and look forward to working with them in the future. I'll post the pictures here but not until after they are published and in print with $pread! I can tell you this they are super fashion and not at all would one would expect if they are used to seeing my glamour work. That's right its called expanding my horizons.

I'm also in the middle of a site redesign for my escorting brochure website. Its been 2 years since the one i have went up and well my site isn't that user friendly i have hired an excellent designer and soon there will be and all new look and feel to my goodtimejenny site. Its something I've wanted to do for a while and i finally bucked under. So keep your eyes open for that.

Thats all the news thats fit to print today...

6 ways to save money, cut down on expenses and survive the bad economy.

2008-12-12T11:12:00.000-08:00

The economy sucks and its affecting everyone from the local bartender to the local banker. Escorts are not immune, no matter what ratings seeking TV show you saw says. So here are some tips and tricks you can use to help survive a bad economy.

1. Be patient with unknowledgable callers and emails
We all hate the "I've never done this before" phone call or the email inquiry that's obviously sent by someone with no idea of what they are doing. They don't know the rules of the game, they ask inappropriate questions, they fumble and they frustrate the hell out of us. Be more patient with them, guide them, see if you can hand hold them into making the appointment, giving you the info you need without compromising your safety.

2. Do your own hair and nails.
Escorts are often expected to be expertly made up all the time. The nail salon and the hair salon can take a big chunk of change out of your monthly budget. Try doing your own hair and nails. If that's impossible and for some of us it is, then try doing your own every other time or stretching it out to once every 6 weeks instead of once a month. The extra change in your wallet with be worth the effort and living with the not so perfect nails every once and a while.

3. Stop eating out or ordering take out.
I'm a huge take out order person, i love having my dinner delivered to my door. I would get food delivered 4 to 5 nights a week if i could and i did. 3 months ago i stopped... cold turkey. I started cooking again. i have saved huge amounts of money this way. i stock the house with cook-able foods, i actually cook them. Also make a list before you go to the market and stick to it it will also save you money and the bonus is you get healthier too because you're not eating junk.

4. If you tour, buy your airline tickets in advance and on the "cheap days"
The cheapest travel days are Tuesday, Wednesday and Saturday. Try to avoid the beginning and end of the week as that's when all the business travelers are traveling so its popular there for more pricey. Also try to plan ahead and schedule your trip at least 14 days out for less expensive flight tickets.

5. Pay off those credit cards! Use any extra cash to reduce your current debt.
It will only make it easier on you during the harder times to come to get that credit card monkey off your back. Try to avoid late fees and possible interest rate increases by sending in your payments 10 days or a week before they are due. Or do what i do, pay them online directly from your checking account. Hey it saves me 40 to 80 bucks a month in late charges and my FICA score is raising a couple points every 2 to 3 months too, for being so diligent!

6. Happy hour!
If you really need that once and a while outing with the girls for cocktails (hell i know i do!) try happy hour. Not only are the drinks much cheaper but they often have bar snacks and when you go out earlier, you get home earlier!

If you have anything to add to the list please do we all need to hunker down in these bad times and from what i'm hearing on the news every night, its only going to get worse before it gets better.. yikes!

Audrey's Blue Panties

2008-12-11T20:00:00.001-08:00

Blue Panties, originally uploaded by Jenny Demilo.

A half naked girl on a roof top is always a good day.
Miss Audrey Trouble is by far my favorite model.

Hit the road Jack

2008-12-04T09:29:00.000-08:00

So i'm starting to think about touring for next year. Ive done a little bit in the past but usually its to Vegas, which I've pretty much figured out. After the winter thaw this next year I'm going to be hitting the road once a month and going on short mini tours to different cities across the nation.

I have a special needs pooch i have to send to "dog camp" while I'm gone so I'm not going to do any 2/3 week treks but i will go out for a 3 days to a week every month and try out some new cities and see what i can make of it.

I'm nervous because touring means financial investments as well as time away from your home market (where i do pretty good) and you never really know if its going to pay off. You kinda have to jump in blind with both feet, rely on your research and hope for the best. I know girls who clean up touring. However the economy is changing on almost a daily basis so working smart is essential. I can not afford to go to a city and have it be a bust (not literally! i screen to avoid that!) So in an effort to make sure i don't screw it up and to waylay my touring fears i will throw myself into research and anxiety mode until March maybe April when I'm slated to begin city hopping once a month. That's right i will trade fear for anxiety!

Some places I'm thinking about visiting:
New Jersey/NYC
Washington DC (and surrounding areas)
Minneapolis
Chicago
The Carolinas
there's a few others but im still looking into them, if anyone out there has suggestions of good places to visit or touring tips and tricks... then fire away. I need all the anxiety relief i can get ;)

The Lovely Nicole Rae

2008-11-28T10:24:00.001-08:00

Nicole, originally uploaded by Jenny Demilo.

I was lucky enough to get an opportunity to shoot Nicole Rae. She's a fresh face in the biz and as sweet as home made apple pie. We had nothing but a few lights and an empty living room to shoot in, oh and i found this ball upstairs we put it to good use. I got great shots of the precious Nicole.

Nicole had never had done professional pictures before and she was a Natural, seriously a total natural in front of the camera. You don't run across that to often.

I hope i get the chance to shoot her again someday.

(*hair and make up little blondie)

For health and food, for love and friends

2008-11-27T09:49:00.000-08:00

It's that time of year, it really does go by fast. I blinked and it was Thanksgiving once again. I tend to keep it low key during the holidays, being as the holiday season and i havent gotten along in many years but this year i'm traveling to the heart of the city to have a Thanksgiving dinner im sure can't be beat, prepared by my BFF, a hot little tamale with cooking in her soul and to be eaten along side good friends who never let me down and are always the height of entertainment.

Jenny's annul list of things i am thankful for on Thanksgiving:

Dogs who have seizures and winning grins
A man who loves me for who i really am
Land-barons who only raise the rent once in 3 years, and then it was only 20 bucks
Miss Audrey Trouble who couldn't be a better friend if i had made her up in my head.
8 year olds who make you listen to Hanna Montana on the phone
Getting through another year relatively unscathed
Good friends who don't judge and have an ear to lend
Diet Coke and ice cream with M and Ms
Barack Hussein Obama
4 walls and a roof!

...And of course it wouldn't be Thanksgiving without .....
Arlo's: Alice's Restaurant

All the lawyers in the house say.. HEY!

2008-11-17T10:25:00.000-08:00

A blogger pal of mine is in a pickle. She is being sued by a former boss of hers for several MILLION dollars because she not so glowingly reviewed said ex boss on the innertubes. She now has to defend a defamation case and is at a loss for resources.

I like this girl, she's sassy, smart and never mean spirited. She needs a lawyer and a good one.

This could be a very high publicity case based on some circumstances i don't want to publicly blog about at this time, but if you are a NY state lawyer or you KNOW one who maybe wants to look into this and see if he can help my blogger friend defend herself against a malicious and frivolous multimillion dollar, possible high publicity case then PLEASE get in touch and i will forward you her info.

I hate to see the little guy get trampled by the big "sue for any reason" machine, i know there's a lawyer with a heart out there.... somewhere.

email me at
"jenny@goodtimejenny.com"
and i will put you in touch if you think you can help.

thanks!!
Jenny

Who's your Daddy, Craigslist!!

2008-11-07T10:16:00.000-08:00

Yesterday at 5pm Craigslist entered the profiting from prostitution business. As part of an agreement with a coalition of 40 attorney generals across the nation they begin charging for ads in their erotic services section.

lets break this down.. in order to cut down on illegal ads they decided to charge for such ads, to the tune of 5 bucks per ad. CL has required a phone number to place in ad in erotic services for months now and has clearly stated their TOS and they they WILL comply with a subpoena and provide an ad posters information to law enforcements when presented with one. That's all old news CL has ALWAYS complied with law enforcement.

So whats the difference here?... charging for ads, and collecting your credit card info. They state that if you violate their TOS in posting an ad that you will be ineligible for a refund if your ad gets removed. And if presented with a subpoena you're CC info will be handed over.

I did a quick scan in Los Angeles, and found in less then 24 hours there were approximately 400 erotic services ads. Do the math at 5 bucks a pop were talking 2k in less then 24 hours in LA alone.

I don't get the logic here, they think when you have to PAY for an ad that you will then no longer advertise? Have they not noticed the many mall sites where people advertise escort services and pay for such ads? like Eros, City vibe, etc? Or is the goal really to make as much cash as possible while making it prohibitive to any real independent sex workers to advertise therefore making it only available to large agencies and AMP's (they largest violator of trafficking) who can afford to flood the board with ad after ad of rip offs, scams and in-servitude providers. Hardly looking out for the craigslist end user or solving the trafficking problem they claim to care so much about.

When i looked over last nights ads i saw a disproportionate number of "agency" ads using stolen pictures of porn stars, and models. This morning its flooded with AMP, I also saw NO difference in the wording or direction of ads. Basically the only thing that had changed was the independent sex worker was locked out and the tone of the advertising was just as it was the day before, only craigslist pockets are a lot deeper this morning.

According to their own blog "The company intends to donate 100% of net revenue generated from these ads to charity, with net revenue to be verified by an external auditor." The key word s here are "INTENDS" and "NET REVENUE" they will not be donating 100 % of all ad revenue but the NET revenue not the gross, so craigslist will be profiting from the collection of monies from escort advertising.

Which makes them the largest profiteer from prostitution in the U.S. of A. welcome to the game Craigslist. Only you're the worst kinda player in the Ho game because you're in denial about your role and position. You pretend you're not a pimp all the while bitch slapping your advertisers like crack hos who need to get out on the street and get you your money.

Its clear Craiglist never spoke to anyone from the sex worker side nor do they really understand their OWN business. All the did was find a way to look like they were being tough on "crime" while really what they are doing is "Profiting" from it, in a very BIG way.

I saw news report after news report from yesterday to today on this story and the spin was "Craigslist is monitoring prostitution" or "prostitution crack down" Not one of them mentioned Craigslists making money off this deal. Maybe they Deal Craigslist really brokered with the collection of attorney generals was that crisgslist wouldn't be prosecuted for pimping or pandering or profiting from the business of prostitution.

I wonder what your pimp name will be Craiglist.. maybe something with "Huggy" or "Silky" in it

http://blog.craigslist.org/2008/11/joint-statement-with-attorneys-general-ncmec/

"The margin is narrow, but the responsibility is clear"

2008-11-04T12:09:00.000-08:00

I woke up early at 7am, feeling much like a kid on Xmas morning. Though i may to wait until late into the evening and maybe even into tomorrow to see if i get presents under my tree or four more years of coal in my political stocking.

I went to my local poling place around 9am hoping to beat the crowds, where 2 districts were voting which meant 2 long lines of people waiting to vote. My neighborhood is mixed. Mixed with hipsters and Hispanics. I kinda fall in the middle of that being that half my family is Hispanic and well I've been accused more then once of being a hipster (though i like to argue that point) it was heartwarming to see that my neighborhood had come out in full force. There were long lines leading out into the street, of young parents with their kids, hipsters who brought their dogs and large cups of coffee, along side of Mexican grandmas who still don't speak a lick of English. All lined up to participate in the democratic process.

I snapped a few quick shots while i waited in line for about an hour, spoke to my neighbors and even ran into a long lost friend who i didn't know lived but few mere blocks away.

(obama girl)

(kids, pets and coffee)

(polling place pets)

(long lines spilled out into the street)

(hipsters waiting to vote)

(the polling booth)

I even took a shot of my vote for who i hope will be the next President Of The United States Of American and who i believe will mend this broken country and who i hope will lead us back into being a country we can ALL once again be proud of.

I urge you all to go out and vote today, its your responsibility as an American and... it will make you feel all warm and fuzzy and we all need to feel a little warm and fuzzy sometimes.

Inspiried to act

2008-11-02T14:56:00.001-08:00

As the latest presidential election comes to the finish line, i reflect back on my own apathy and disillusionment with the US government and my place in it. There was a time when i was very politically active. I was involved and felt like my voice counted. Over the last 8 years i have felt lied to, helpless and as if my one little voice didn't mean a thing. I was essentially told by my government that i didn't matter and they didn't care that i knew it.

This latest election i see people inspired to act. People who have very little giving anything extra, forgoing groceries and basics to help change the country they love for the better. Its brought tears to my eyes on a daily basis to see people pull together for the common good. To see people get out there and volunteer their time, to rally those around them to act and to be as inspiring as they are inspired. It chokes me up and makes me proud.

I'm an patriot, i always have been. I vote, even when i don't want to get out of bed, i feel its an obligation as much as a right. I registered to vote on my 18th birthday because it was important to me. I've been involved in local politics and school politics. I served on my first school committee when i was only 9 years old. (yeah i went to one of those schools) and I've begun to feel again like i need to be involved and that my voice again could matter.

So i would like to say a personal thank you to Barack Obama for giving me back my hope and for helping me once again find my voice which has had a terrible case of laryngitis for 8 long ass years.

I'm Cooked

2008-10-26T09:49:00.000-07:00

I'm sitting in the Vegas airport ready to hop a flight home... cooked would be an understatement.

suffering until sufferage

2008-10-20T09:26:00.000-07:00

Today is the last day to register to vote in California, the lovely state where i live. Its important to participate in this democratic process of ours in this great nation... for more then a few reasons.

1. its your responsibility as an American to vote
2. you don't get to complain about election results if you don't vote
3. wont be eligible for the " i have voted" Jenny Special to be announced soon

Voting is Patriotic, its not just a right its a damn responsibility. Your vote can change the world and your voice needs to be heard. Your vote is the representation that this taxation gives you. So take the time today to go to the post office, libriary and fill out the little one page form or do it online if you cant get out an and register to vote. Then make sure you take the time to get off your lazy ass out on November 4th and vote your conscious.

The 19th amendment is one of my favorites because it gave women the right to vote. We've only had that right since 1920 when it was ratified on August 18 and that's not even 100 years. Women such as Alice Paul and Lucy Burns and Dora Lewis fought long and hard and it was a tough battle to give me the right to vote these years later and to not do so is to dishonor those women. So keep that in mind if you decide to let this Nov 4th pass and not perform your civic duty.

let your voice be heard, register to vote and on November 4th get your ass to the polls!

http://www.rockthevote.com/

When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro

2008-10-15T11:59:00.001-07:00

I'm heading to Sin City the middle of next week with two of the best girls i know. Vanessa Monet and Miss Audrey Trouble. We are going there celebrate Miss Troubles birthday. Yeah so i know a birthday is but one day a year but this year Trouble is having 5 fun filled days of birthday madness. Others are meeting us out for the "official" weekend fun but us girls, or "the family" as Trouble likes to call it who will be heading out early to whoop it up fear and loathing style on the strip.

I being the pragmatic of the bunch will be attempting to work while i am there, hey i don't wanna disappoint my Vegas guys and not be available and besides i can party like a rock-star with the girls and get down and dirty with some new friends, i know how to multitask. Plus who knows, if its in the cards i might be able to convince one of the girls to join in on the dirty naked fun. ohhh now there's an idea.

I know the birthday festivities will include an evening of "Thunder From Down Under" Okay so my ex was a male stripper and fitness model so i have a certain ...ummmm... "view" about them having lived with one of those narcissistic freaks for a few years, but this actually sounds like fun because i will be with the most fun girls i know and we will all be looking to tear it up. Watch out big buff greased up men in little tiny itty bitty G-Strings the Hoe Patrol is on the prowl and we have you in our sites...

Wish Us Luck!

“Every now and then when your life gets complicated and the weasels start closing in, the only cure is to load up on heinous chemicals and then drive like a bastard from Hollywood to Las Vegas ... with the music at top volume and at least a pint of ether.” - HST

Put A Rubber On Your Willy

2008-10-02T08:50:00.000-07:00

I had a conversation with a male friend about his latest relationship going south. In the course of this conversation he mentioned how they had a pregnancy scare. So i asked "did the condom break or something" i then found out that birth control wasn't something he generally used. I was taken back a bit. I thought in this day and age everyone wrapped it up.

Skip ahead to a conversation with one of my best civvie girlfriends, she's been traumatic relationship free for about 5/6 months now and has been casually hooking up with many hot boys (a necessary part of getting over the old guy) she then tells me a rather torrid tale of her screwing some hot guy on her front porch after being out watching a band..... SANS CONDOM. I was pretty fucking pissed off at her. I reminded her that if she were to get "The Herps" all that casual fucking would come to a screeching halt, not to mention the likelihood of catching something more serious. She was generally sheepish about it but her rational ... its not easy to have condoms on you, or how expensive they are. excuses, excuses, excuses.

The other day i saw a client who tried to convince me to fuck him bareback. I refused, he was rather persistent, i still refused. It totally ruined the session, I couldn't get into it, i kept checking to make sure he didn't slip off the condom and try to trick me. I mean like every fucking 2 mins i was checking, I wont ever, ever, ever, be seeing him again. I told my best escort pal all about him, she was as pissed as i was about his bullshit and sympathised with my situation. We've all come across some nasty pig in a work situation who thinks they are so special that we will forgo our well thought out rules and screw them bare. As fucking if.

Are escorts the only sexually responsible people out there? I am very careful and sexually responsible not only for my own health but because i want to protect the health of the man in my life. But even before i was involved with him i would never think of NOT wrapping that shit up. Maybe its because i fuck for a living that I'm responsible about it, because ive been confronted with what i do and I've examined the risks. I've thought about them, I've thought about ways to to minimize them. I don't personally know any escorts that don't take precautions about their health, that don't get tested on a regular basis, that don't bitch and moan about how much they HAVE to spend on condoms, std testing, etc. It seems that my real world non sex worker friends are pretty damn casual about their sexual health, they are sleeping around (a lot!) and taking amazing risks.

Hey I'm all for sleeping around, I'm just for doing it responsibly. I mean how hard is it in this day and age to have a rubber on you and to fucking use it, i mean good god you don't know where that dick has been!

Pre-Occupied And Stuff

2008-09-28T12:06:00.000-07:00

I've been remiss with my blog postings because I'm obsessed with the upcoming presidential election and focusing on that. I hope many of you out there in the blogesphere are too and are prepared to vote your conscious on Nov 4th. To not do so, makes you a very bad American. Couple my political obsession with the fact that It's fall and my escort business is heating up (as it always does this time of year) and the fact that I'm shooting like made for my day job and well, i know , i know excuses, excuses but there ya have it...

So in light of my neglect here are some things i thought i would bring to your attention:

Swop Chicago did a great little video about Knowing your rights as a sex worker. Its aimed Chicago providers but its got info that all sex workers should check out as well as some awesome role-play reenactments and rad cop glasses...poor bubbles

h/t Vixen of the Spread Blog

Sex workers in TJ are getting charged more for STD and HIV testing. its being called "immoral and scandalous" by Victor Clark Alfaro, director of Tijuana’s Binational Human Rights Center. It also could increase the risk of spreading STDs, as many girls may try to forgo testing to save on expenses. Think about that next time you wanna hop the boarder for a super cheap piece of ass

Both Brad Pitt and Google Step up in support of NO ON 8! the California proposition trying to overturn the the rights of gay couple to marry in California. If Google and Brad can do it so can you, NO ON 8!

Planned Parenthood says its received $802,678 in donations in Sarah Palin's name. The Viral email campaign started a couple weeks ago when emails started to circulate on how to make a donation to Planned Parenthood in the Name of the conservative VP candidate who doesn't believe in a woman right to choose.

You can make a donation at this link
Have them send the card in Sarah Palin's honor to:

McCain for President
1235 S. Clark Street 1st Floor
Arlington , VA 22202

On the subject of the GOP MaCain says "horseshit" during the debates which makes him the first candidate in a televised debate to use profanity.

On Bob Cescas Goddamn Awesome blog there is a particularly great comment by a deaf lip reader "FrictionSoul " who breaks it all down for you. Im all for cursing but not during a presidential debate. Does that mean when McCain disagrees with some head of state he's gonna go ape-shit lose his cool and curse at him? Yeah that's great diplomacy.

I prefer to leave my cursing for this blog and for when I'm getting fucked really, really good...usually from behind ;)

So you wanna be a hooker?

2008-09-16T10:29:00.001-07:00

Every time there's a big mainstream media article about Hookers i get contacted by young hopefuls asking for advice on how to get into the game of pay for play companionship. With Radars recent debacle (hipster hookers my ass) the amount of mail I'm getting asking for advice is off the hook. So to save myself from having to repeat myself over and over to inquiring minds i thought id share some of my words of wisdom, advice, warnings, ramblings or what ever you wanna call it.

My first bit of advice is: DON'T DO IT.
There are girls who have stellar reviews and long standing reputations who are not making ends meat right now. Wanting to get into the escort business at this time is like wanting to get into the employment game after 911, there is little work. The economy is bad and its an election year which always causes work to cease.

If you still want to brave the bad economy and heavy competition here are some things to think about.

Get a professional website: Make sure you have a stats package so you can see where your referring hits are coming from. This will be really helpful, you can see where you advertising efforts ie dollars are paying off and converting to clicks to your site. You want to work smarter not harder.

Get professional pictures: Makes all the difference in the world. Classy pictures attract, classy clients. Skanky pictures ... well you get the picture.

What will you do for money: Don't let anyone talk you out of your comfort zone ... ever.

Screen Clients: You need a way to be sure someone is who he says he is so you don't get into trouble and you need to make sure someone isn't scary to see. This is VERY important, always screen potentials. You need to become a JR private eye. You must be 100% sure of who you are seeing, if they don't screen, then don't see them. Never drop your guard no matter how broke you are. Don't get greedy.

Watch the competition: http://www.eros-guide.com look at the ads for the girls in your area, see what they charge how they present themselves. Who do you want to be?

Treat it like a business: Be professional in your dealings with others. Investments of time and money are necessary to be successful, as with any business.

Keep your personal information PERSONAL: Be careful who you trust, its an isolating business, it can get tough, you often feel like you live in a bubble and will want to reach out to others in the subculture. Chose your friends wisely. This is a cut throat business and there are lots of people who are nuts attracted to it. You are who your friends are to some degree, someone else's rep can spill over to you. Someone with your personal information can really hurt you. I was outed, its not fun, it can be devastating.

Don't quit your day job: Living off the grid is difficult, you want to appear as normal as possible. Its tiring to be an escort and have a day job but in the long run you will have more to show for it.

Besides all that, i go back to my first bit of advice... I don't recommend ANYONE do this.

It's not easy money, you work HARD for it and it takes a toll on you physically and emotionally. It makes real interpersonal relationships hard... for most, impossible. You have to lie to the people you love and care about on a daily basis and that is a very hard thing to do, it gets much harder over time, living a double life is not easy. Its a risky business (emotionally, physically) if you insist on being an escort you need to work smart and minimize your risk. Not everyone is cut out to do this, you have to be able to compartmentalize your emotions, you have to be able to reject societies stigma, its not glamour and glitz, it has its moments but this is job and a job with real risks.

Escorts are risk managers, we have to be its how we survive.

Help me, Help Me!

2008-09-14T13:02:00.000-07:00

I went to the Opera last night to see "The Fly". Its a new Opera based on the movie The Fly. The opera was directed by David Cronenberg (naked lunch, crash, the dead zone) who was also responsible for the 1982 film of the same name. Composed Howard Shore acclaimed film scorer (Lord of the rings trilogy, the aviator, ed wood, the cell)

I love The Opera. I know insert Pretty Woman joke here, but I'm Italian, very Italian... as a child Opera was often played in my home as i sat on the floor and built my Barbie Dream House©. I grew up with it and it resonates with me. I go to the opera whenever i can, but it's expensive and I'm spoiled. I like good seats, I like to dress to the nines and sip champagne, i go to the lectures before hand. That means i don't go as often as id like to, so when an old friend called me up to see if i was interested in being his date i jumped at the chance.

The Music was just amazingly beautiful and the story is a good one, mans struggle with humanity with a big healthy helping of love triangle on the side to round it all out.

This particular opera is significant because its something new, its based on a film, its macabre, its got sex scenes and best of all nudity! full frontal male nudity i might add. I think its a direction opera needs to head if its to invite new and younger people into its fold. This isn't a re-staging of the same old opera you've seen 100 times. It is a fresh take on Opera, a collaborative effort by ultra creative people from different mediums coming together to make something new.

Now the bad news, it falls flat and for two reasons. Its fatal flaw is the libretto written by Henry David Hwang. Is meandering and slow, it cops out going for a cheap laugh time and time again, really there's very little melody and rhythm in the libretto (in the words of Big audio Dynamite "all the matters these days is rhythm and melody"). To a lesser degree its doesn't push the envelope enough its as if they were afraid to offend the blue hairs with really going for a dangerous and macabre look into a mans horrifying transformation into a fly. Insect politics was especially disappointing as that could have been the crown jewel of the whole piece but again its as if the jockey was on the horse but refused to give its head so it choked before the finish line.

Oh well, i applaud the effort and hope this trend in opera continues. Plus i always enjoy spending time with old friends who know me for who i really am. I didn't have to be "Jenny" last night, i only had to be me. Add to that a little opera, a little champagne, a charming companion and I'm one a happy, happy girl.

http://www.theflytheopera.com

Do Your Homework!

2008-09-06T10:20:00.000-07:00

Escorts get researched. Experienced clients spend a little time and effort and there are resources available to them to research a potential escort. Message boards, review sites, websites, blogs. Often he can contact her previous clients and get the real lowdown. Is she's really what he's looking for? Is she legit, does she have a reputation, is it good or bad, is she flaky, outspoken, fun or crazy. Is she independent, work for an agency, does she up sell, is she a GFE, a Pump and dump, or a high dollar hottie. He can view pictures, read accounts of trysts with other clients, etc, etc. Goggle can really be your friend on this one, there is a wealth of information to be had out there when you do you homework.

Escorts are a big ticket item, clients are laying down a pretty penny on the table, so you have to do your homework. It's is a common recurring theme, especially in this failing economy when you want to get the most bang for your buck. You hear it repeated over and over... DO YOUR HOMEWORK.... Some might call it a vetting process.

All of that got me to thinking about McCain and the GOP's selection of Sarah Palin, Gov. of Alaska as his Vice Presidential running mate. When the announcement was made the nation and the media was taken by surprise. Sure she was on the list but way, way down on it and the idea of a little know extremely inexperienced small town mayor and current Gov of a low population state was never taken seriously by any one with critical thinking skills. The general consensus was she was a far right wing fundamental Christen and that her inclusion on the list at all was to appease the fundie Republican base. "See we care about you, we included this far right fundie" so when the announcement was made, it made the Medias head explode (mine too i might add) no one knew anything about this person. So the press did what the press does.. They vetted her on their own.

Websters defines vetting as: "to evaluate for possible approval or acceptance"

I saw Tim Kaine Gov of Virgina on the Daily Show make a passing remark about the Dem's vetting him for possible inclusion on the Obama Ticket. He said they wanted to know everything about him, even to the point of the middle name of his first girlfriend. It sounded like a grueling but necessary part of the political process. It makes since though, much like how you want to minimize your risk when hiring an escort to make sure you make the correct choice, a political party wants to do the same thing in a VP pick. Only it's turned up to eleven!

So the Mainstream Media and the not to main stream began to Vet Gov Palin. One would think that McCain and the GOP would have already picked apart Gov Palin, from her personal life and her family life, to her record as a politician and previous work history. That they would leave no stone unturned, that they knew everything there was to know about Gov Sarah Palin. That they would be strongly prepared for her critics on any number of subjects because they already KNEW about any hiccups in her career or personal life. That they would already know about any possible weakness and be able to counter questions and reassure the nation that they knew she was the right choice.

No one lives a a perfect life and when the stakes are this high, when the future of the nation is at stake you would think that the McCain camp and the GOP would have done their due diligence on such an important matter. So that when the Media went to town to find out all could find out about this virtual unknown, that they were prepared to answer to their selection.

one would think.... that's not what happened.

It appears as if the GOP didn't vet Gov Palin at all. Sure maybe they "did a Google" but she's got a much more checkered political record then anyone would have thought. She's got family issues most notably with her unwed pregnant teen aged daughter, an ongoing ethics investigation into abuse of power allegations as Alaska Gov, she's connected to a Pentecostal (ain't they they snake handlers?) almost radical church that believes in the Rapture and advocates converting gays into heterosexuals though the power of prayer, shes NOT highly educated (5 colleges in 6 years) and is very inexperienced when it comes to politics. The GOP seems to be unprepared to answer to any of these inquiries. In fact in a 60 day campaign McCain spokes people have said she will not be speaking to the press for at least 2 weeks (they are spending this time to teach her the basics of foreign policy, OMG)

It seems as if McCain didn't "do his homework" he didn't vet his running mate and it's biting him on the ass on a daily basis. What scandal will come out today, about Gov Palin that the McCain camp wont know how to answer to because they are finding out just as you and i are.

A curious potential client would do more research on finding the right hooker then McCain did in selecting the person to be a mere heartbeat away from the presidency.

You gotta love the GOP

Radar Blows It Again

2008-08-24T19:48:00.000-07:00

I was gonna leave this one alone on my blog since I've been commenting on it all over the innerweb on other blogs and on the article itself but I've been getting a lot of email so i thought i would pony on up with some thoughts on radars latest look into the sex for cash biz.

As some of you know i enjoy Radar Magazine, I've been Quoted in it, I've worked with a writer there on another possible upcoming story but the last couple of "hooker" oriented stories makes me wonder... what the hell happened to Radar? First they publish a mean spirited bunch of drivel making up a premises for Ashley Dupree's new reality series, written by top misogynist Alex Balk. He writes of the "whores" with such spittle vigor you'd think he had a personal stake in it, or maybe just not enough Mommy love as a child.

Then Radar publishes the latest bit of wonderment about the sex for money biz titled "Secrets of a Hipster Hooker" it supposedly a first person look at the high end hooker game in NYC, where the author crosses the line and attempts to turn a trick but runs out on the client in the end (yeah i know spoiler) I swear you have a more honest look at the sex for money biz watching Harold Robbins' mini series 79 Park Avenue. I've been all over the web commenting how this fluff and turn piece is just a bunch of made up BULLSHIT.

Other blogs of note are also commenting on Radars latest guffaw and have some interesting takes on the piece, making great observations. Susannah Breslin of The Frisky says "the realities of sex work are far too hardcore for most aspiring “hipster hookers” to handle" and she couldn't be more right.

Monica of the Spread Blog goes into depth and just tears it up, in the process makes a keen observation I think the idea of putting yourself out there as a (possible) consumable piece of merchandise is gratifying, and talking about in an article is in many ways an attempt to publicly confirm your fuckability

Even the Valley Wag gets into the mix, Melissa Gira Grant reports on it by saying "She went it at like a novelist-wannabe temp showing up for a stint as a file clerk".

Most of these tend to give the writer the benefit of the doubt and play along with her story as if its real. I still think its total and complete bullshit. Salon talks about how she wrote this piece and then shopped it around. I think they mean watched a lot of Showtime and did a little innerweb blog search, read a romance novel or two then wrote it and shopped it but hey thats just my take on it.

You think that any media outlet buying it would either...
a) Label it the fiction it is
b)FACT CHECK IT

But nooooo then how would they get their made up view of hookers. All of us making 300,00 bucks per year and keeping our money in gold bars (doesn't everyone have a stash of gold bullion?) carrying 1,000 handbags and having great high powered day jobs. All our clients are the wealthy, young, rich, banker types who lavish us with tips in original art work by recognized artists. Then once again they force feed us the same old tired bullshit to justify and explain why young ladies get into sex work.... its empowering. ahhhhhh BULLSHIT.

Peridotash ex-escort and current Domme has a recent blog entry where she asks sex workers the Three top reasons they do what they do.. No surprise the number one answer... MONEY. Empowerment is the fantasy justification as to why some women choose to fuck for money. Its the same old line of bullshit, "its not the money, its the sex", "I'm not money motivated...I'm just horny" :::giggle:: :::hair flip::: Anyone who has honestly talked to a hooker when shes getting off her 4th trick for the day and he was a smelly, small dicked, pushy, weasel of a man who kept tuning her nipples in like they were radio dials until they were sore, will tell you... that the empowerment angle, is utter and complete bullshit.

I have to hand it to Radar they really out did themselves on this one.. F minus!

Message Boards: The New Hobby

2008-08-03T08:47:00.000-07:00

Hobbyist are not hobbying, I've been noticing this trend.

Let me define "hobbyist", I'm talking about message board hobbyists. Men who don't just review escorts but are active message board participants. So really what I'm saying is message board hobbyists are not hobbying. They are not paying for the intimate time of an escort. Sure the bad economy is a factor but i noticed the decline of message board participants actually hiring escorts before the economy was an issue. They post on escort oriented message boards, they flirt with escorts online, they spend countless hours in chat rooms with like minded men and escorts who are desperately vying for their attention, they send saucy PM's and emails, they attend meet and greets and play grab ass in public, they inquire as to availability of escorts as if they are interested in booking, they make sure to ask for a special or a discount because of their message board reputation, they create online relationships, but I've been noticing a giant trend toward message board hobbyists not actually making appointments getting in their cars, laying their cold hard cash down on the table and seeing the escorts they are engaging with online. So i started to think as to why.

Why does someone see an escort? Mainly its because something is missing in their life. They could be in a marriage where the sex is greatly decreased, or they have an need for sexual variety that being in a marriage prohibits, they are single and between committed relationships (though in general there are less of the single guys than the marrieds) they are missing excitement, the thrill of flirtation, the feeling of being desired, wanted and sexually sought after.

So if they can get all that buy joining a message board and never leaving the comfort of their computer why wouldn't they? Basically they are having affairs with women they find sexually desirable, who openly flirt, engage, send them naked, salacious pictures to entice them to visit, tell them how much they are desired, wanted and needed and they never have to open their wallets, never have to leave the chair in front of the computer, except to go to a meet and greet, social or lunch and pretend that all the chicks there WANT them and play a little grab ass.

There are many mini dramas on message boards and often its a couple of escorts who are fighting over a client. The truth of the matter is its a money thing with the girls but they would never come out and say that. It's unspoken so that the man can have his fantasy. Its not a transaction, the girls are after but HIM. We get too business like and we get branded "all business" and that's not good for "business" the big lie is that were in it for the sex and not the money.

Ive noticed with my business, personally its taken an interesting turn. Most of my new clients and many of my existing clients are not message board hobbyist or "hobbyists" at all. They are often men new to the idea of hiring an escort, they have found me though an ad on a mall site or more often though this blog. Or maybe they write the occasional review but usually only at the request of the escort. They don't spend countless hours yanking chains and low balling ladies on message boards or pitting them against each other so that they can feel like a hot commodity. They simply want some intimate time with a willing partner they find attractive. This is a sentiment I've heard echoed by ladies across the nation self identified hobbyists are not hobbying .

Its an election year and that always is a precursor to a shift in the sex for money biz. Couple that with the failing economy and you have a lot of ladies in the biz suffering... BUT add in this message board phenomenon and and shine a light on it and you will see a whole new ball game emerge. The solution is of course to develop a client base not centered around message boards which i personally have been doing for some time. Is it more difficult...yes. Is it harder to screen your clients to make sure they are safe... yes. Is it worth it... oh hell YES.

As with any business you need to keep your fingers on the pulse and not fall into the trap of always doing whats easy and never getting off the path of least resistance. For a while there message boards were a gold mine, it was an easy way to find the like minded folks and to make a pretty penny dong it but they have evolved into something else and are no longer worth the investment of so much time energy and resources. The pay off isn't there anymore. They shouldn't be abandoned all together, why throw out the baby with the bath water. Use them as tool they can be just like you'd use any other business tool but they shouldn't be regarded as the Golden Calf either. That idol was false and fleeting and we all know what happens when you you worship at that alter..... you might just get your temple torn down.

Double, Double Toil and Trouble

2008-07-24T13:01:00.000-07:00

Double sessions are tiring. Now you would think and i feel most people do believe that being as there are two fun, sexy, hot chicks sharing the "work" that duos would be less tiring then doing them alone, one on one. I am not buying into that urban myth as i sit here, muscles still sore for the last evenings activities. With a double session there are three bodies trying fit into the sexcapade puzzle and let me tell you its often very much like making puzzle pieces fit and that can be havoc on the bod. I mean have you ever tried to get your face upside down and your mouth on a mans balls while on your knees as your girlfriend/partner is blowing him and not get yourself smacked in the face by her bobbing head all while balancing in some half awkward squat, with a smile on your face like its really the bomb diggity? Then doing it again 90 minutes later with an even shorter guy and an even more strained position?

let me tell ya the dont call it sex "work" for nuttin.

True friendship is seen through the heart, not through the eyes

2008-07-20T21:44:00.000-07:00

I officially said good buy to a life long friend today, though in my heart there will never really be a good bye. I cried as people ive known since i was 7 and 8 years old stood up and recounted how my friend had touched their lives, i was way too much of a wreck to speak myself, I just couldn't do it.

He touched my life in so many ways and he was instrumental in my development as a creative person. I will never forget him and his influence on me is strong. I am a better person for knowing him but i am terribly sad tonight and my heart is a little more broken and beat up today then it was yesterday.

The first of pleasure...

2008-07-15T22:14:00.000-07:00

Little sprinkles of light twinkle though the leaves and vines intertwined in the brown wooden slats that cover my tiny quaint multi-colored patio. Espresso made from real southern Italian beans linger on my sun kissed lips. I squint as the light is blocked by the man before me...

"il mio cuore è pieno" i whispered in his ear as he bends down to touch my cheek and his hand drops to my exposed breast. More of me was full a few moments back then just my heart but alas...i digress.

I lean back and think about the long summer days and how i got here on this patio with plump ripe grapes hanging above my head... and close my eyes and bask in the sun for a few more minutes before i have to dress for a fancy formal diner.

"non sono fatto con lei ancora" i say in Cosentino... your sly smile tells me you understand my broken Calabrese dialect and approve of my sentiment.

I am a very lucky girl.

The photo of the grapes was taken by yours truly

Gettin Phished

2008-07-10T09:49:00.000-07:00

It happens sometimes, usually its some dim witted bacon and donuts type that thinks I'm going to express in a private IM conversation that i will do XXX sex act for XXX dollar amount. I wont on the phone, or email and they want to do an end run around, thinking that i'll some how incriminate myself in an IM. Good luck on that one. The men in blue have a specific way about them and I'm always extra cautious anyways, i find them out pretty fast. Plus they could never pass screening and i ALWAYS screen.

The other day i got phished and i first thought i was a a man in a uniform, but then it took a turn that made me believe it was someone just fucking with me, looking for personal information about yours truly. This person who was "new to the hobby"knew too much, for someone "new" they ask pointed questions under the guise of being a fumbling newbie. Like i would somehow give them some kernel of personal info i don't give out to potential clients. That i would slip up and give them the little golden nugget they were looking for... AS IF.

My favorite portion of this fleeting online conversation was when he told me how nice i seemed in an effort to butter me up when i was being a reserved, suspicious, non responsive, bitch. yeah dead give away...

oh well seems my "fan club" is still out there with too much time on their hands, i hope they enjoyed my bad spelling and bitchy attitude!

Crotchless panties and grandmas pearls

2008-07-04T09:46:00.000-07:00

6 years to the day today you left the earth and its also the day you were born, my little firecracker. You are always with me on firecracker day. My thoughts are always of you and how you always made me laugh until my face utterly hurt, the crazy adventures we went on in the middle of the the night causing trouble in a small coastal town in California. Wearing monkey pajamas on the street and acting like everyone else was dressed like a freak, getting me searched and almost detained trying to get back into the U.S. because you couldn't stop singing at the boarder crossing! Offering to knock me up after i went crazy after the pinto bean died inside me, just to make me happy and smile again. How miraculously you produced soup, the only thing i wanted and couldn't shut up about, none of which we had in the house. Dancing to some loud rhythmic house music, two bowls of beef with barley balanced on both hands as you twirled into the living room at 7am in the goddamned morning.

You were not longed for this world, you were too good for it. You lived everyday the best most creative way you could even after you got sick and you always meant and still do mean so much to me. From that first day we met when you pretended to be the host of the party i ended up at and dragged me into the bedroom to take Polaroids, write captions and mock "the patio people". To the last time we spoke when you knew the end was near and you told me you loved me and had a moment of clarity to say good bye.. kindred spirits, two of a kind, peas in a pod? naw.. more like two balls in a bag. You loved me for me and you never faltered from that. You did your best to protect me from the illness that ravaged your body and brain, though i wish you would have let me in a little more to take care of you but i understand why you didn't.

So my dear Firecracker today is your day, the day the world produced you and the day it took you back and i will don my grandmas pearls, my best crotchless panties, drink to much and think of you as i swim in a pool of hookers and porn stars. I know you'd love that and if you were here you'd be right there with me egging me on to do something that would take us one step from the nut house or jail.

I miss you my long lost friend and where ever you are I'm sure you are twirling, laughing and being the center of attention as well you should be.

Vocalizing

2008-06-27T09:50:00.001-07:00

He was visibly nervous and shaking like a leaf. I found it kinda amusing... at first. I tried to calm hi down a bit by speaking slowly, touching his arm when i spoke and remaing cool, calm and collected myself. as we got the small talk portion of the evening out of the way, I looked around the room spotted my envelope (i always like to know where it is) and noticed that there were no pictures on the walls and that all his belongings (books and video tapes) were ushered into piles in the 4 corners of the room. I asked him if he had lived there long as the place didn't look very lived in. he'd been there over 2 years.

I took him by the hand and asked him to take me to bed. His hands were sweaty and the shaking was still there. Again i did my best to calm him down but at this point i knew it was futile. he was oddly aggressive but scared to death. I tried to take the lead to set the pace but i finally gave up and let myself be the zombie rag doll he was looking for. He was obviously not well practised in the art of the female body but wanted to make sure he got all the high points in. i obliged as best i could.

when it came time to wrap it up and go for the gold he amateurishly pulled me to the edge of the bed so he could penetrate me while standing up.. umm okay I've always been a fan of that and when he slid inside me i decided to be quite vocal, and put on the big show, i know that's what he wanted and honestly try as i could i just couldn't get into the sex this time. it took him about 3 strokes to cum. he later told me it was because i was so vocal. Note to self nervous guys cum fast when you moan like a porn star. I can only imagine how fast it would have been if i had started to get into some dirty talk. Maybe my filthy mouth could i have gotten him to cum before he actually attempted to fuck me ....

i grabbed my envelope and headed for the door with a kiss on the cheek for him and 400 dollars for me.. he will call again. the nervous ones always do.

Focus

2008-06-25T10:16:00.001-07:00

I woke up with a headache and frustrated. Why i don't know. Dreams of a broken camera danced in my head all night causing me to toss and turn and wake up and will my tired body back to sleep. I have a focus problem. Not just with my photography but with my life. Isn't that always the way. I went over my last set of film and i noticed i was unfocused more then my fair share. Are my sensors dirty or are my eyes? I have to correct this before my next scheduled shoot. Though i have a sneaking suspicion that the correction will be contact lenses or Lasik or some thing else just as paralyzing to me.

My camera focus issue is a metaphor for a life focus issue.. I'm becoming disenchanted with many aspects of my day to day life. Id love to blame this on the death of a life long friend that happened a couple of weeks ago and my refusal to deal with his demise. Or on raging hormones or how all of a sudden i emerged myself into a square job and its taking all my energy, thought and time.... but i can't. its not them, its me.

I have a "to do" list longer then my arm to keep track of the details. I never used to have to do that. I used to remember hundreds of projects and all their minor and major details off the top of my head. Am i out of practice or have i just somehow lost the ability to keep track of things?

“You can't depend on your judgment when your imagination is out of focus” ~~~~ Mark Twain

Maybe my imagination is out of focus, maybe that's my real focus problem. I'm trying to be imaginative, creative and positive..... but whats happening is depression and frustration. I'm not dreaming it, nor am i being it. I'm just letting "it" happen to me... once again.

like a big pizza pie

2008-06-21T00:20:00.000-07:00

Super extra busy over the last week or so and I've been blog neglectful. bad Jenny.. bad, bad Jenny. I swear i will write some dirty or naughty or at least more interesting stuff soon, besides "ohhh I'm sooooo busy, blah blah blah" but its true i am and im just not used to having to have to schedule my life like this.

I'm shooting all day tomorrow for the agency. They swore to me it's going to be an easy day, ha! I already have them figured out.... that's how they suck you in. Oh well call me little miss sucked in...

And now a personal observation... The full moon makes people crazy.

Walk in with a smile, walk out with a job

2008-06-13T15:37:00.000-07:00

I had a meeting today to show my book to the CEO of a major modeling agency headquartered here in L.A. and hot damn if i didn't i book my first shoot with them on the spot! I have a solid body of work now and i found that selling your abilities in a face to face meeting with a power broker is a skill you never lose. I used to walk into the wolves to pitch and sell a concept daily when i was an AD and today i pitched and sold just like old times. A solid book and a little charm and fearless confidence still goes a long way in this town.

I'll be doing tests for their new faces division. It looks like an interesting team I'll be working with and I'm excited about it. I clicked real well with my contact and we seem to be on the same page creatively and that's always a huge plus. This is a great step forward for me in advancing my photo career. Now don't get me wrong i love shooting naked girls, but i also like to be challenged and try new things and it will be great fun to do some fitness and fashion models as well as some stuff with a much more commercial appeal.

I walked in with a smile and i walked out with a job.

Gettin' it all done in time

2008-06-10T10:50:00.001-07:00

A girlfriend and i were talking about appointment lengths, she was considering extending her 1 hour to a 90 min minimum she was having issues with getting in everything within the allotted hour. It reminded me about another working girl friend of mine who says she knows exactly how much time has lapsed in an appointment to within a couple minutes. She's not looking at a clock or a watch or anything, she's just really good at perceiving time.

Time is always an issue, no one wants a "clock-watcher" but this is a timed event so there is a balance to achieve and a skill to getting everything in within the hour. I think I learned how to manage my time well when i was working in advertising. You had so much to do and so little time to get it done but you also didn't want to look like you were panicked and flustered. That would only come back to bite you in the ass a million different ways in that nasty world.

With a client you need to be able to converse, charm, flirt, make out, get oral, get down, relax, chat and give it a second go, all within one short hour. That's a lot to do in 60 mins but its not brain surgery, its sex and human interaction. Some clients make it easy for ya, they are charming, flirtatious and ready to go go go. Others are nervous and awkward and you need to gently coax it out of them. The real job here is to get clued into what the clients expectations are early on so that you have enough time left to meet them, or in my case attempt to exceed them. yeah yeah, I can't help it I'm an overachiever. If you are observant and looking you will find those cues and clues hunt them down like youre Nancy Drew and once you figure them out you're good to go. then getting all the highlights in in time is easy.

Once in a while i might go over time because i lose track of it. Yes, i can can fall victim to a charming man once in a while or i get so entranced by an interesting conversation or person that i realize the times almost up and i haven't even gotten naked yet. A certain fascinating malpractice attorney comes to mind, i will of course stay over to make sure i leave my companion a happy, happy man. For the most part an hour is plenty of time to get it all the required high notes in, the more you do this the keener your sense of time gets. I went over a lot more then i was just starting out and still in the middle of the very big learning curve then i do now. With any job the more you do it the more efficient you are at it. I personally prefer a 2 hour or longer tryst with my gentlemen callers because then the pressure if off entirely to cram everything in a hour time frame, its easier to just go with the flow...

...cuz if you cant seduce a ready and willing man in 2 hours, well you got bigger issues then managing your time!

Flip!

2008-06-04T01:20:00.000-07:00

I bought a Flip©. So far i've filmed and edited one mini move. Don't get too excited its just of my my dog barking and running around my house (yeah i know how to give the masses what they want). I wanted to practice with my editing software and see what the quality of this little plug an play camcorder was all about and made a 30 second clip with cross fades, two titles and a swiped soundtrack. It;s not bad and its certainly fun and easy, i give it a thumps up and i plan on documenting some of my photo shoots coming up and seeing what else i can do with my new toy.

I'll take the Flip© to Pride next weekend, film the drag queens and the estimated 8,000 people celebrating gay pride and the fact that they can now get legally married. Usually pride has about 4,000 people this year its going to be off the hook.

so if you see me... don't forget to smile!

Dulce de ... huh?

2008-05-28T00:32:00.000-07:00

I've been working on putting together a second blog. True i do contribute to a couple of blogs started by my blogger pal Ethical Slut

check them out here...
Non Slutty
Unfortunate Cocks

But this second blog ive been working on is more of a glimpse into my life as a photographer. I've been shooting naked, dirty, naughty girls for a few years now and my studio is called "dulce deojo" which is eye candy in Spanish. When i started it I thought i could keep my photo work and my escort work separate but really they are such an influence on each other that I've come to the conclusion i cant keep them in their own private little boxes.

Escorts are masters at compartmentalizing. Our feelings, our sexual identity, we often have separate sets of friends who only know one side of our double life.. if you don't have this skill you wont last long in the biz. With all that being said i have found that I've been slowly crossing the streams. I told my best friend i was an escort last summer, I've been freer sharing my "real" life with my escort friends and of course the man in my life knows all about all the facets of Jenny De Dulce. This has been a very slow and gradual move for me. This new blog project is just a little bit of that, a small baby step in merging a couple of aspect of my life.

I can be so hard sometimes to keep it all straight. If you like photography you might like my new blog, i promise to be just as saucy over there as i am over here.. but with just a few more pictures.

Check out my new blog here

Jenny
P.S (the eye candy image at the top of this page wasn't shot by me, but the make up was done by Jenda, my MUA and stylist)

The Twitter Situation

2008-05-25T20:59:00.000-07:00

Twitter refuses to uphold their TOS, denies responsibility or accountability to its users and the backlash is brutal. That's the story in one line but let me delve a little deeper.

Popular blogger and twitter user Ariel Waldman has been harassed. Several online communities/tools/utilities or whatever they would like to call themselves this week are being used to further that harassment. Ariel contacts the powers that be at Twitter and attempts to get them to intervene and uphold their TOS which clearly states.

" You must not abuse, harass, threaten, impersonate or intimidate other Twitter users"

Twitter then cops the fuck out, in a huge way. Ariel blogs about her experience and there is much support. Twitter employees attempt to do some major damage control as this story spreads like wild fire across the blogosphere. They succeed in only making them look more irresponsible. They back peddle and go through a series of excuses. First it appears they say they are afraid to ban the abuser because of lawsuit retribution, then they say they will rewrite their TOS to remove that section because they are not a "community" website but a "utility" website, they then settle on the theory that Ariel wasn't abused enough to take action and uphold their TOS.

You can read all about this here and here and here and here, its everywhere.

http://arielwaldman.com/2008/05/22/twitter-refuses-to-uphold-terms-of-service/
http://getsatisfaction.com/twitter/topics/twitter_refuses_to_uphold_terms_of_service
http://news.cnet.com/8301-13577_3-9951197-36.html
http://www.zeldman.com/2008/05/22/a-tweet-too-far/
http://blog.wired.com/business/2008/05/tweeter-takes-o.html
http://www.briansolis.com/2008/05/twitter-vs-ariel-waldman-when-tos.html
http://blog.twitter.com/2008/05/our-terms.html

Why am i writing about this social network site I'm not a part of nor have any desire to use? because it draws an interesting parallel to a small local provider/hobbyist community site based in OC and LA. They too refused to uphold their TOS when i was harassed by a member(s). I will not be naming them because i refuse to give them any publicity but those in the know .... KNOW who they are.

My harassment was 10 fold to what Ariel describes, i was called a "cunt" on so many occasions i cant keep count, i was accused of all manor of felonies and was chased around their "message board" in an attempt to ruin my reputation and in the escort biz your rep is pretty important. When i reached out to the administration i was denied help. I was told that banning abusive members was "too time consuming" or "futile" because the offending member would just "make a new account" that i should acquire a thicker skin, ignore the constant attacks or to leave the board. They passed the buck and told me to contact my local PD but took no action themselves. After the harassment reached the point where my real name was posted in their site, my personal information investigated and passed around though their system and links to my real life posted, I asked a high level administrator face to face what had to happen before they would take action and i got brushed off and shrugged off with the same "its futile" answer. I also came to know that while much of this harassment was going on one of the administrators of the site was involved. When i would write the anonymous "admin" account asking for intervention that often the one doing the harassing was the administrator i was contacting. That administrator was eventually removed because of an incident with another user who happened to be male and a lawyer. I suppose he was taken more seriously then me.

Eventually i opted to not participate on that site any longer because i felt my personal safety was compromised some really crazy things were going on, things i contacted my local PD about. Threats of kidnapping were the scariest. Outing of my personal information and the harassment i suffered on a daily basis really made it not worth it. I thought id take the out of sight out of mind approach. It continued without my presence on the board and does to this day. To date and to my knowledge no one has been censured, chastised reprimanded or admonished in any way for this behavior.

Recently the same site made a move at reinvention they now officially call themselves a "social networking site" my belief is they are trying to shield themselves from liability from running a prostitution message board. They now have a way to collect money to run the site and have a "community moderation" feature where you can delete members or silence them if enough of the community agree on the action. However that "feature" doesn't not abate them from responsibility or accountability to their users as they would like members to believe. This particular site has degenerated into a huge cluterfuck of nastiness. All it is, is people being abusive to each other, its painful to read.

There are situations where the administration will intervene and delete messages, silence members or delete accounts. There are 3 unspoken rules, they are listed no where on their site you're expected to "just know them" if you discuss law enforcement, drug usage, or that you have met other members of the site at a social function your posts mysteriously disappear. However on that site you are free to board stalk, demean, insult and harass other members with no recourse.

Its much more extreme then the Twitter situation but it boils down to the same core issue... Social Networking sites and their responsibility to their users. Some seem to want to not be responsible at all, they make excuses and don't step up to the plate. Harassment on the Internet is a serious issue and it seems to touch a lot of peoples lives. If you create a service/site/communications tool I submit you DO have a responsibility to your users. If you chose to turn a blind eye because it's too hard of an issue to deal with then you end up with what happened to this local prostitution site i was a member of..... it degenerates into crap, loses its usefulness and people no longer want to be associated with it.

So i again ask the question...what has to happen before this kind of online harassment is taken seriously? Does someone have to die for some of these new social networking sites to address this issue and to be responsible to their membership? They rely on the "its futile" "its only the Internet" "were the messenger" arguments to shield themselves from responsibility but will that really shield them when some thing tragic happens?

I hardly think so and i for one sure hope it never gets to that point but i like others see the writing on the wall.

Oh Hell No!

2008-05-19T17:34:00.000-07:00

If you live in a 5 million dollar house in the hills high above LA. If you spend half of the time you book with me bragging about your wealth and all that you have. If you expect me to be impressed with your material achievements and to visibly show you how impressed i am with many ohhs and ahhhs and oh wows and then expertly drop to my knees and suck your cock like a champ because you're such the big man on campus...

THEN FUCKING TIP ME.

I'd be much more impressed with a couple extra bucks quietly slipped in my pocket then the boat you want to blah blah blah and endless drone on about ..... while i giggle and flip my hair like the Barbie doll you mistakenly thought i was.

Im sorry but pretending like i'm impressed with your stupid stuff .... is EXTRA.

Know your rights...

2008-05-15T13:01:00.000-07:00

Today marks the 60th anniversary of the Universal Declaration of Human Rights adopted by the United Nations. Bloggers all over the world are writing about human rights today to bring attention to the fact that all people are born with basic rights and freedoms that include life, liberty, and justice.

On that theme, I find it significant that today the California Supreme Court struck down the state's ban on same-sex marriage as unconstitutional. 4 long years in the making and its about damn time already.

"In contrast to earlier times, our state now recognizes that an individual's capacity to establish a loving and long-term committed relationship with another person and responsibly to care for and raise children does not depend upon the individual's sexual orientation,"

"We therefore conclude that in view of the substance and significance of the fundamental constitutional right to form a family relationship, the California Constitution properly must be interpreted to guarantee this basic civil right to all Californians, whether gay or heterosexual, and to same-sex couples as well as to opposite-sex couples."

MA is the only other state that allows same sex marriages though New Hampshire, Vermont, New Jersey and Connecticut permit civil unions. This decision is a victory for gay (and human) rights. The Gove-o-nator says he will not pursue this further. So California has set the tone, i wonder if the rest of the nation will follow suit. I for one hope they do, the Government shouldn't dictate to us who we can build a family with.

As for what our Presidential hopefuls think about the issue...

MaCain thinks this is a states rights issue and that all states should decide for themselves. Both Clinton and Obama oppose same sex marriages but support civil unions. All three oppose a constitutional amendment that bans same sex marriage. Whatever... they are all playing the semantics game and refusing to take a stand.

For shame on them all....

Know your rights!

...and now in California you have the right to marry the partner of your choice even if they are of the same sex!

Carne Asada is not a crime!

2008-05-14T11:22:00.000-07:00

I was raised in east LA and even now live in a predominately "brown" neighborhood. Though i am Italian by heritage, i am Latina in my soul. One of the things i love is a late night run to a local taco truck. Often when I'm returning from an outcall after hours and hungry, i will stop at a local truck for a tasty meal for just a few bucks.

It seems now the local taco trucks in east LA are under attack. On the 15th of May a new ordinance will essentially make harder if not impossible to do business for these truck owners but that's not all. It will also Criminalize selling a taco! I'm an entrepreneur and i definitely support the little guy making a buck in an unconventional manner. I'm also a taco eater and i support an LA residents right to eat taco from a taco truck! The food is tastier, cheaper and often available when nothing else is.

This ordinance has come about because "brick and mortar" restaurants are complaining about unfair competition. It's been called a turf war, the Jets and the Sharks only with carne asada and tortillas. The big loser in all this is the consumer i.e. You and ME! again because of unneeded and biased county regulation we are having our choices taken away from us. I don't want to be forced to go to a sit down restaurant and pay a higher price for a less authentic product, especially in this shaky economy. We are all tightening the belt and the taco truck is a useful option in that endeavour.

Tonight 8pm to 12am is...
Taco Libre! Show your support (Tacos El Galuzo, at 5555 Whittier Blvd in East Los Angeles) Enjoy your last LEGAL taco in East LA. Don't forget to use your voice and sign the petition Save Our Taco Trucks

First they outlaw the Bacon Dog now they want to take away our taco trucks.

Carne Asada is not a crime!

If i was a firefly i'd light up my ass at night!

2008-05-09T10:07:00.000-07:00

Green Porno: Is a series of short films inspired by the bizarre and often weird way insects and other creatures .... do it. It was conceived by Isabella Rossellini who's long been a favorite of mine, not only because of her infamous performance "Blue Velvet"but because shes always been a creative force. Green Porno is her directorial debut and what a way to enter the directors ring... gloves on tight, trim and lean and ready to knock your opponents block off.

Green Porno is overtly sexual, humorous, titillating and just plain beautiful to watch. It's a sneak peak into the underground sex world of creepy crawlies.

It premiered at the Sundance film festival and the Berlin and Tribeca film festivals and now you can even get it on your mobile phone (if you have Helio). In fact it was designed with the tiny screen in mind and many of its creative choices were made for that purpose.

Green Porno! watch them all

The promo..

Are you a cop?

2008-05-08T10:07:00.000-07:00

It's one of the more prevalent urban legends in the sex for money game, believing that if you ask an officer of the law straight out "are you a cop?" he or she must answer truthfully and spill his little law enforcement guts. Somehow asking that magic question will free you and you will no longer be eligible to go to the clink for doing something illegal.

Nothing could be further from the truth. Let me make this very clear.. cops are allowed to LIE. they can do all kinda of things when undercover to try to stop the bad guy (in this case consenting adults who want a little transacted naked fun) when working a drug case they can not only sell dope, but use it... what in the world makes people think that on a sex for money sting they couldn't do the same. Though i have been lucky enough to not ever have to come in contact with that side of the biz, i know ladies who have. Cops can touch you, get naked and of course LIE. I personally know a escort who after having sex with the undercover was arrested. Talk about insult to injury, his word against hers. Is that common? doubtful but that doesn't mean it can't and doesn't happen. What they can not do is entrap you, let me rephrase that. If they entrap you (ie though their actions convince you to commit a crime you were not already predisposed to) you have a good chance of getting that charge dropped at court. You still get arrested, finger printed, photographed and you still have to hire a lawyer and go to court. That solicitation charge is still on your record. Expunged records still have a footprint, so even if you go to all the expense and effort to get that charge wiped from your record someone somewhere will be able to see at some point you've been arrested.

fun huh?

Here are some interesting discussions and ridiculing of those who so blindly believe that what they've see on 70's TV shows like Starsky and Hutch and Baretta will save them from a night in the pokie.

Expert Law

Yahoo Answers

Erowid Vaults

Erowid Vaults have the most interesting and prolific one and though their slant is drugs, it's the SAME THING were talking vice.

It all boils down to there is always a risk when you ant to break the law (even a stupid one like prostitution), I'm sure for many that's part of the fun. So minimize your risk as much as you can. Ladies don't take unnecessary chances, screen your potential clients to make sure he's not only a nice guy but is who he says he is. No exceptions to your rules, it keeps you safe and free. Gents do your home work, know who it is you're seeing. That Playboy model who isn't established, doest have a website and is very explicit about her "menu" isn't really going to give you the world and then some for 150 bucks... think with the big head. It's the best way to stay out of trouble and out of the long reach of the law.

Now anyone can get sloppy or make a mistake and get caught up, its not the end of the world, it happens to the best of them.. if it does happen just wear it like a badge of honor....

But don't forget ... there is no magic question that will keep you safe and free, only using your brain can do that!

Sharing the prejudice of experience

2008-05-06T18:24:00.000-07:00

Real friends will let you nail someone in their apartment while they are busy at work, oh and send someone your direction for the bangin'...

you girls rock ;)

I believe i made my point...

2008-05-02T18:46:00.000-07:00

“You can lay down and die, or you can get up and fight

but that's it -- there's no turning back.”

I'm not sick from champagne, I'm sick from the sea

2008-05-02T17:07:00.000-07:00

... okay really i just have the flu.

Oh i'm the mend now, i was too sick to post. i was only well enough to swig NyQuil and watch every episode of "deadliest catch" ever made half in and out of a fever induced stupor.

Yep i now know more about crab fishing then you!

Today page 32, tomorrow ... the world!

2008-04-25T14:17:00.000-07:00

So it came out today, i had no advance copy and i wasn't sure how much i would be quoted. I found out because i got an email from The Ethical Slut (I just love her) telling me i was on page 32. I Jenny DeMilo have been quoted for the first time in a national publication. It's the first step in my goal of conquering the media and sharing my expertise on the hooker and john... errr provider and hobbyist subculture i have found myself involved in for the last several years.

They used some good quotes from me and gave me the prestigious first spot...Upper left baby! I'd also like to say that i am the priciest girl in the mix and i also used the word "Pussy" in my first nationally published quote. Oh hell yeah why not start it off right and with a bang!

This is just the first thing I've been working on to come to fruition, I have many things in the cooker ready to burst out! I'll keep you all posted as they trickle down the proverbial pike. This one hit the newsstands today April 25 2008.

Today page 32 in Radar Magizine... Tomorrow the world!

Americas Next Top Hooker

2008-04-18T11:23:00.000-07:00

Who doesn't love Hookers and who doesn't love reality TV! I know i do.

welcome to my new show..... America's Next Top Hooker

The Pitch: a cross between Top Chef and Americas Next Top Model. 10 Ho's from all different parts of the biz, track walkers, Craig's List girls, highly reviewed escorts, high end very expensive courtesans live in a house together and compete in "Ho events" to gain the title "America's Next Top Hooker" oh and some kinda outlandish prize like money (hookers love money)... TBD ;)

The challenge events could get pretty outrageous... but for TV they might have to be toned down. Boo!

Catch Phrase: Every reality based lifestyle career game show needs a catch phrase these days. "you're fired" entered the popular vernacular and will forever be associated with Mr Trump, others maybe haven't fared so well. "this is your last cut" "please pack your knives and go" "you are NOT America's next top model" so a good catch phrase can carry a show. For Americas next top Hooker i suggest these catch phrases... (other suggestions welcome)

1. Take your envelope and go
2. leave the money on the night stand and get out
3. that was your last blow job

Networks: So of course Playboy TV is on the pitch list as well as HBO and Showtime (Showtime is the new HBO anyways) but maybe Comedy Central would have balls big enough to take a risk with this new reality based prostitution game show... even though their budgets are well known for being ridiculously low. The comedy gold possibilities are endless!

I think it could work, its got everything. Sex, sexy girls who will probably hate each other and do nasty shit to each other behind each other backs oh and sex.. of course you will need a crack legal team because anytime there is prostitution in the mix you gotta make sure all bases are covered and no one goes to the clink for a another dumb reality show .... I think the public is ready and with the success of celebrity rehab i think they will eat this new show up... hey America loves dug addicts why not hookers!

I'm pitching it i swear i am... steal my idea and die :)

Here Comes Trouble... Audrey Trouble!

2008-04-10T18:43:00.000-07:00

I was lucky enough to get to photograph the adorable and quite spunky "Miss Audrey Trouble" She's great to work with, fun, sassy and just damn cute. This is a sample of the afternoons work, though working with Audrey is hardly work at all, shes a joy to aim my lens at. There sure are worse ways to spend an afternoon!

Yeah i know life's rough ;)

My blog is a dictatorship not a democracy

2008-04-08T19:55:00.000-07:00

I welcome comments disagreeing with my point of view or taking exception to my thoughts, ideas, whatever. However if you trolls think i will approve comments where you call me a cunt or any other debasing name you can forget it. MAYBE i would have approved your little"anonymous" tirade if you had bothered to string a cohesive thought together and still called me names.... nawww, no i wouldn't have.

So you tweaked out, never was, waste of silicone, why don't you come back when you're not smoking crack and try to put together comment stating your opposing views that doesn't include flaming the blog owner (don't be such a dumb bitch) and MAYBE I'll approved your chicken shit, scared to post under your name, skeezed out, old hag, bony ass.

...maybe

Availble for comment!

2008-04-07T10:23:00.001-07:00

Sometimes its not easy being your own press agent, okay its never easy but it's usually fun. So today i finish off my first press release. I'm in the process of putting together my mailing list; email, snail and fax. It's an exciting time for me, i hope that my 100th press release will be as much fun putting together as this first one has been.

With the article i worked on for a major magazine (a well kept secret until it hits the news stands in a week or so) This is the perfect time to be "available for comment" well that and the whole sex for sale scandal all over the news (thanks NY Governor Spitzer for your love of whores!) the media is primed and ready to go. I'm taking the financial analyst approach to being available for comment... so maybe it will work and maybe it wont. ahhh who am i kidding of course it will work. Advertising and marketing was what i really excelled in before Blow Jobs and i did that almost as well ;)

I heard some people are quaking in their chicken shit boots at the thought of Jenny DeMilo as a go to girl for the media in regards to escort world. Maybe those same people should have thought better of calling me a cunt over and over and passing around my private info. It's not my problem if they are all scared now that my platform is on the verge of being much broader and they didn't have the forethought to not be the worst kinda escort world sludge. Oh well sucks to be them. People who have bothered to take the time to speak to me or who know me aren't in the least bit scared. Why should they be... they have no reason to be.

I'm not afraid of anything.. My names Jenny DeMilo, I'm fearless and... I'm available for comment!

"Give a man (or a woman) an anonymous account, and he'll eviscerate your self-esteem."

2008-03-31T21:52:00.000-07:00

I ran across this article by Violet Blue and it just rings oh so true Blue. As someone who over recent times has been under siege by "anonymous trolls" and some not so anonymous, calling me any manner of terrible names in hopes of trying to make me feel bad about myself, Violets take on the phenomenon is spot on. They can can call you names, they can call you fat, and ugly and try to diminish what it i you have to say by pigeon holing you into some narrow minded view of what is beautiful, As if beauty in and of its self holds the key to everything informative or insightful but they can only try, they can not succeed if you don't let them.

I don't let them... my fat ass makes 4oo an hour, I'm happy with myself and very comfortable in my own skin, which makes me a dedicated and sexy fun escort well worth the price of admission, in fact I'm a goddamned bargain

One more reason why Violet Blue rocks

The Bat Phone!

2008-03-31T21:29:00.000-07:00

I try not to put a number in my escort ads though sometimes i do. I prefer to be contacted by email if possible, gives me a chance to screen my new friends and since i was once a "phone girl" for an agency my patience is low for bullshit phone calls.

so today the Bat Phone rings....

Caller: hey baby, i saw your ad on Eros
Me: great, whats your name
Caller: so you have great curves
Me: thanks, whats your name?
Caller: how big is your ass baby
Me: ahh huh?
Caller: how big is your ass baby, ummm yeah how big is your ass
Me: ahhh I'm sorry what are you asking me
Caller: how big is your butt, your ass is fine how big is your ass
Me: its about to get much bigger i just ordered a pizza

then i hung up.

Its possible that this was a legitimate caller, (doubtful but possible) But really I'm not about to discuss the lovely dimensions of my juicy, round, spank-able ass on the phone out of the blue like that with someone who wont even tell me their name. Id like to think that i am just that exciting that you cant help but get right into the "ass" before you tell me who you are... but really i think it was just some dude jerking off on the phone.

If i wanted to get guys off on the phone, id open a phone sex service, i prefer to get them off in person!

The evil time sucker

2008-03-31T21:15:00.001-07:00

I attempted to have a computer free weekend. I thought maybe i could kick it for 2 days, yanno like one would kick coffee or more appropriately heroin. I thought maybe by distracting myself with marathons of Law and Order, many Starbucks runs and long hours with the man in my life trying to seduce him into groping me 24/7 would do the trick.

alas it did not work, though i greatly reduced my computer time over the weekend i did not succeed in a computer free weekend. I supposed i will try again another weekend to put the evil time sucker down.. err mean my laptop!

Four be the things I am wiser to know: Idleness, sorrow, a friend, and a foe

2008-03-26T10:28:00.000-07:00

I learned a little bit about friendships this week...

"A good friend is a connection to life - a tie to the past, a road to the future, the key to sanity in a totally insane world". ~Lois Wyse

Thanks for the cupcakes :)

Happy Zombie Jesus Day!

2008-03-23T12:22:00.000-07:00

People celebrate Easter in all kinds of ways. Some go on colorful painted egg hunts, (eggs laid by a rabbit even!) some people go to church and celebrate the resurection of Christ in a somber and reserved way and yet others have a spring fling pagen filled may pole dance fest. I will celebrate by meeting friends for French food at a small cafe and maybe i will raise a glass to the things in life that matter. Family, a man who loves me, good friends and the ability to live a life of your own choosing even if that life is a little off the beaten path.

Happy zombie Jesus day everyone! (oh i mean Easter)

Enough about me, what do you think about me?

2008-03-20T11:46:00.000-07:00

Mini reviews being hijacked i see it more and more...

A mini review is a short blurb a "hobbyist" ie client writes about a "providers" ie escort. It's usually because a formal review takes a while and the dude wants to get the word out. She was great or she sucked. Almost all mini reviews are positive in nature.

What I've been observing lately is escorts who are not the escort being reviewed jumping on the mini review thread in a very thinly veiled attempt to steal the girls who are being written about thunder. To bring all the attention to herself. In many cases they don't even give the subject of the mini review time to thank her client for the acknowledgment. I find this kind of behavior classless and opportunistic. Are times that tough that you have to try to step on someone elses praise in hopes that you can get everyone to "look at me, look at me, look at me"? or is it a narcissistic need to always be the center of attention and not letting another girl have her moment and shine.... On her own goddamed mini review.

It reeks of desperation to me, peppered with little nuggets of a personality disorder to act in such a way over and over. Sure we all want attention, and in this biz attention can often equal money. However there is enough room for all of us to eat. Let someone else have their moment in the sun, especially on their own review. They were the one in the room making the client feel special not some opportunistic, insecure escort who must have all eyes on her no matter the situation.

Some girls just don't get it and will never be comfortable letting another female bask in the glow of her own accomplishments and sadly they just never will.

One of us! Gooble Gobble!

2008-03-18T09:15:00.001-07:00

I forgot what it was like to have a paid out out there i haven't had one for a few months. It sure helps with biz. I'm getting plenty of work and its a good month so its so worth the expense. However there is also the little draw back of being more visible to not just the clients you want but the freaks!

here's some examples:

The blow smoke in my face guy... Yeah i told him to find a more experienced smoker, i couldn't smoke for an hour no matter how hard i tried, Id probably toss my cookies all over him. HOT huh?

The gently fuck me with a strap on guy... Ummm nope ain't gonna happen. i get the heeby jeebies just thinking about the creepy way he described what he wanted me to do to his "puckering ass flower"

The 19 year old professional fighter and full time student! okay if he had screening info i might have gone to see him but being as he was 19 he couldn't pass. I told him if he looked under 25 i was going to card him, that didn't chase him off, i told him it was an increased fee sine he was in Orange County, he was still interested... when i asked for references he couldn't provide them and really how am i going to verify someones occupation when hes a "professional fighter" besides those meat heads scare me. Ive seen the UFC. no thanks!

so that's a small smattering ... i gotten many requests from incall from gents who haven't read that they need to book that in advance and my phone did ring at 6am this morning (yeah they got sent to voice mail) and I've gotten a strange amount of guys who just don't do any research at all. I always direct them to how to find me online so they know what they are getting themselves into. I like an informed client, if they want a giggly hair flipping barbie doll, it aint gonna happen, if they want a real, breathing, thinking, alive, lusty women who will rock their body and their mind.. well hot damn they hit the gold mine.

Deadlines, deadlines, deadlines!

2008-03-14T10:57:00.000-07:00

Last week i received my first media inquiry from a major magazine. They Had seen my blog and wanted me to contribute my thoughts for an article they are writing about "call girls" for an upcoming issue. After talking to my point of contact and being made to feel comfortable that this wasn't a derogatory slant on escorts, i decided that i would love to participate and agreed.

I had forgotten what it was like to work under a deadline. In my old life in advertising i lived under deadline, this took me back to that hustle and bustle even for just one evening of burning the midnight oil. I had to have my thoughts in writing, waiting in my contacts email box first thing in the morning NY time today. Last night i feverishly worked writing paragraph after paragraph and doing my best to be honest, speak my truth and pepper it with my signature Jenny flair. Even though i was dog ass tired i had fun and i think i gave them some really good stuff to use.

The issue is slated for a May release which means it's out mid April. I have yet to learn if it will be on their online version of the magazine or just the print. I hope its both we will see. I'm excited to see it and i know its going to be a killer story.

I cant say who its for yet because obviously i don't wanna jump the gun for the magazine but its big and i couldn't be more happy working with them. I feel like a toddler who took their first baby step... one foot in front of the other... soon i will be walking out the door.

99 Luft Boobloons?

2008-03-14T08:13:00.000-07:00

And not once did they use my favorite word for boobs... Which is of course...

GOLDEN BOZOS!

Jazmine

2008-03-11T13:23:00.001-07:00

Here's a little tidbit from my shoot the other day. I was lucky enough to have been chosen to shoot the lovely and adorable Jazmine for her first professional phtoshoot. It was a real treat to work with such a fresh, sweet and professional young woman.

Jazz was eager to do some good work, took direction very well, was professional and was just plain old pleasant to be around. Both my make up girl (little blondie) and myself had a great afternoon with Jazz and her little furry companion. (woof!)

Okay back to work for me on Jazz's pictures!

Stranger things have happened

2008-03-10T11:30:00.000-07:00

The boyfriend and i are talking about moving in together, this is a big step. I'm a very independent girl and hes a very independent man. It will probably happen we just need to find our middle ground, oh and have duel as to which part of town we will live in.

20 passes, turn and shoot... the winner gets to choose!

Big things on the horizon!

2008-03-08T22:23:00.000-08:00

I cant give it away just yet, but there is something a brewin' in Jenny land guaranteed to knock your socks off. Okay maybe it will knock my panties off and not your socks... well it will knock something off, i assure you.

sorry to be so cryptic but I'm not allowed to spill the major media beans just yet.. soon my pretties... soon!

No Pain, No Gain

2008-03-04T16:25:00.000-08:00

Paying for advertising is a pain in the ass. Wouldn't we all like our business to boom with little or no investment in them. Yeah that would be awesome however that's also living in a fucking dream bubble. If you think you can grow a business (any business) and not invest in it yeah I'm talking monetarily, then you are just being naive at best.

A professional escort needs professional photos, a laptop, nice lingerie, a website, and some PAID advertising on a well known tried and true legitimate escort mall website. Sure you can scrimp and cut corners (hell i do however i can) but you really need to think about how you want people to perceive you. Do you want to b a courtesan, or a cyber street ho. I know which end of the scale i hope to be seen as.

Escort advertising is god damned expensive, the reputable websites nickel and dime you to death. Extra fees from everything to additional pictures to text changes. It sucks and its costly however, i make 400 bucks an hour and im bitching and moaning because i have to pony on up to the table with 3...4...5 hundred bucks? with a simple 300 clam investment i plan on reaping at least a few grand... so really what is there to complain about. You really do have to invest money to make money and the escort biz is no different, its just a little more naked.

kinda puts in in perspective huh?

Sinff me out like I was Tanqueray

2008-02-29T20:06:00.000-08:00

Amy Winehouse rocks my socks. Her, voice, her style, her balls to the walls attitude, her messy fucked up-ness. You don't get a voice filled with soul like that with out having lived a life...without living a life.

She's got personal problems.. yeah so what, who the fuck doesn't. I don't want squeaky clean, pristine, white washed, bullshit in my ear when I'm alone in the dark, contomplating my life. I don't want homogenised pop music i cant relate to blaring out my car stereo as i blaze down the 101 way over the speed limit on the way to screw a stranger 12 ways to Sunday. I want it gritty and i want it real and i wanna feel it.

I cheated myself
Like I knew I would
I told ya, I was trouble
You know that I'm no good

She's got depth.... and shes got pipes... and she's got my attention.

Fairy tales can come true, it can happen to you...

2008-02-25T21:41:00.000-08:00

Diablo Cody won the Oscar for best screenplay last night (in her own shoes no less) . Phew! I had my fingers crossed for her for about a week. It's amazing, shes an ex stripper, turned blogger... turned Oscar winner. Its great to see her succeed. It proves that it not only can, but it does happen.

The Pussy Ranch
Cody-Space

Diablo Cody is a real inspiration... she proves when you put pen to paper and you have an original thought and a unique voice to express it with that ANYTHING can happen.

Im Fucking Ben Affleck

2008-02-25T10:22:00.000-08:00

Once more reason to love Jimmy!

Delete, Delete, Delete!

2008-02-25T09:50:00.000-08:00